been home for 2 days after exploring South Dakota with 2 daughters and 4 granddaughters, was fun but tiring, alot of riding and my leg and butt are killing me, was hard to do alot of walking, siaticia is a pain in the butt, haha. I still miss Bob like crazy, we did everything together, was on my mind while on vac. but I made it through, actually laughed a few times. It`s been hard to come on here and read and talk it brings back such awful memories of how bad it was with Bob, I want to remember all the good times we had but then at the same time I want to keep in touch with you all to see how things are going and give you all my love. Gail ((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))
So glad you checked in with us. I was visiting an Alzheimer widow last night, and although her husband died of something else before he went into the later stages of AD, she still went through a lot of AD stuff. It's been 6 months, and she said that now she is remembering only the good times. Hopefully that will happen for you too.
Marygail: Thanks for your post. I think I am going to visit my Bro next month. It will be my first time going on vacation without DW. I already feel 'out of place' at some of the places I go, so I really just don't know how I will handle this trip. I know - Just one day at a time.
Dean, the out of place feeling is so real, and I understand, being a widow only 7 months. I have said that suddenly the entire world looks like Noah's Ark...with the population walking up the ramp 2 by 2. I DO know there are others out there like us, whether single by choice, circumstance or death, and eventually, I'll find them. Continue...a day at a time, ..beginning by thinking, "Left foot forward, right foot forward, left foot forward"... nancy
Dean, enjoy the visit with your brother. It is a good step. I'm planning to visit my brother in Colorado Springs as soon as I can, don't know when. I've never been there. Family is wonderful, even the very thought of them -- and email contact.
Dean, I placed my husband just over 3 years ago. I still tend to think in terms of being part of a couple when I go places. We weren't joined at the hip but there was still a connection. Over the years, I have gradually gotten more comfortable going out on my own but still feel lost when the rest of the crowd is couples and then there is me.
If you want to go out with others, you will probably have to come up with the idea and follow through to begin this process. You will also have to do that several times before others get the idea to reciprocate. Do things that you are interested in and you will start to meet people. Even though he is not gone yet, I have been keeping my eye out and ears open for opportunities that I would be and am interested in.
At this point, I am not ready to do something like "singles dances" or anything like that. I just want to get out occasionally and be with people.