I am 57. It has been at least 10 years since real sex. We have tried but he just can't keep it up. Even pills did not work. For years I blamed it on me not being thin and curvy like the one he had the affair with. Then it was the weight I put on because he would have an erection but once he started touching me it went away. We could have some intercourse for a while as long as there was no foreplay involving him touching me. For a while he was willing to bring me to climax, but that was not enough for me. Without the completion it hurt, meant nothing. I could do that on my own if that was all I was searching for. Someday I would like to find a man who would treat me sweetly, lovingly and have good sex, but unless I can loose some weight that will never be (unless I find a chubby chaser!) And if he should go 25+ years like his dad, I would be over 80 by then. Of course, once he no longer knows me and is in a facility, I plan to start rebuilding a life.
Of course what we say now and reality may be two different things.
Anchor20: A year or so ago, my DW asked me if I wanted to have sex and I sure did. But, it wasn't right and I will never know why she even asked the question. Long story short - it didn't work and I never tried again. Of course, I understood that it wasn't her fault (this dread disease) and I am convinced ( I think) that she didn't even know what we were doing and why.
All of you express yourselves very well and I don't know of anyplace else where we could have this discussion. Also, the anonymity is greaty. We wouldn't know each other if we met on the street, but, I sure have feelings of appreciation for each and every one of you.
Just heard a lady comedienne comment on the side effects of Viagra, ie, the four hour problem that I never had. Her comment was for the next man that had that problem to stop by her apartment on his way to the hospital.
SEX Whats that something you eat? ED pretty much destroyed our sex life as we knew it long before AZ came along. WE came to an agreement if it worked we done it if it didn't then stop. Now it is a dream of day gone by. The AZ has destroyed her wants and the ED has destroyed mine. Now nothing works for either of us so cuddling is whats works best. You roll with the changes or you turn into a very frustrated person with yet another stress causer. No point in crying about what used to be. Just go with whats left.
Bruce...I thought sex meant Super expensive xray, and it was not covered by medicare. I keep seeing that on all the forms I fill out, and I now answer yes when I have to fill them out.