I am way overwhelmed. I was trying to be proactive about a long term plan, but failed miserably. I had my husband starting in full time day care Tuesday but now am thinking he may be getting beyond even that. I have had a couple of days off work to tie up loose ends like reviewing attorney recommendations but my husband has either become so much worse without me realizing it, or I have caused him to unravel by being around. I am meeting again with the attorney on Tuesday and don't know where I will end up. My husband seems to be sailing through the stages and has got to be in stage 6 now.
Kind of feel like I am in crisis mode and I wasn't going to let this happen after having been through this with my Mom (dementia) and Dad (Alzheimer) in the last 5 years.
dog-I didn't realize how far along my husband was while I was working. Your being with him for more time has given you the chance to observe him better (or worse)
Dog, it may be that the recent full moon has affected your DH negatively. This would explain why he suddenly seems worse. I imagine the folks at day care will let you know, once he gets started, if he's too much for them. Meanwhile, in spite of all the difficulties, it sounds like you're doing what you need to do to manage things as best you can. It's understandable you're feeling overwhelmed, but hang in there and vent away all you want.
Dog, what kind of decline are you noticing? Maybe Folly is right and it's the full moon or perhaps your being around more -- we all know that any change in routine will seem to spark a decline that they sometimes recover from when the new routine becomes normal. Hang in there and keep us posted.
Dog, I agree with bluedaze and folly. I see more of my husband and how he is doing on the weekends when I am here during the day than in the morning and evenings. I know the full moon effected my husband (it usually does) and I think he may have had another mini stroke too. Please know that we have you in our thoughts and prayers.
dog gone it dog thats wayy too much dementia to deal with for one person! geez. poor dear. maybe getting him into daycare has disrupt his normalcy some. any changes can affect their demeanor and yes full moon just passed last thursday. like others my DH has the dread jerking on the weekend which isnt a normal everyday thing so i am also chalkingit to the fullmoon. he has since stopped and back to his routine again. give it some time. if hes still in a decline you may want to discuss med changes with dr? and see if it will help. they will know how to deal with him in daycare if its dementia prone residents. keep a line open to the director there and have her tell you of any changes good or bad early so you can manage them.
I always notice a huge change everytime we change seasons. Does anyone else notice that? This Spring it was not shaving (or knowing how) and unable to dress himself. Ordered "velcro" shoes for him this week :-( .
phil4:13 , I found wonderful lightweight pull on pants on line at JC Penny. They are a jersey material, wash up nicely and very comfy. Jim loved them that was all he'd wear and now I have passed them on to my brother for lounging around.
Susan, I looked for the Penny pull on pants and ordered some but they are not jersey. They do have a good elastic waist, are full cut and he likes them. But they were longer than the 30 in, pants usually are and I had to shorten them. Can anyone send a link for the lightweight pull-ons?