I also made arrangements for Larry to be buried at the VA, Arlington (near Riverside, CA) Cemetary, chose the wording on the free headstone also. He loved the Air Force. Even the casket will be an Air Force design, etc.
Rosana, You don't need to apologize for anything you say. Everyone here knows what you are going through and if they don't know now they will eventually. I am so sorry your husband is having a hard time and I am sorry you feel so sad. Hang in there and post when you can....all the support you need is right here. Take care and God Bless.
Oh Rosanna, don't apologize for your post. That is why we are here. To give you love & support in your most difficult times. You & your husband will be in my prayers.
Rosanna, your post is so touching and heartfelt. I know some of what you speak as this is what I witnessed with my mother in her last 11 days. The worst thing is the conflict in feelings. While I did not want my mom to suffer this anymore, I also didn't want her gone...I could not resolve the two. She never became totally with it even for a few minutes...but all else was as you describe.
Now I face the same conflicts again..while I don't want my DH to go through these last terrible stages of this disease I too don't want him to be gone. This is so hard on everyone. But we are all here for one another..give your DH a wee hug from all of us too.
Nikki, I've not been around on these threads for a while...taking a break from heartache, I guess. So, I haven't read through the entire strand, here. Just know that it is always wise to have made "final arrangements", even if we are healthy...for everyone's sake. My parents have planned out their arrangements (years ago) and even prepaid for as much as they could so that I wouldn't be burdened when the time comes. They wish to be cremated and have even purchased the internment vessel, the niche where it will reside (but, their instructions to me are to have thier ashes dispersed in a beautiful location they've chosen...so, that "niche" won't even be OCCUPIED!). It's hard, but making any arrangements NOW will be much easier than later on. I made John's arrangements 2-3 months before he left the world behind. Love, Jen. (so, so sorry)
Rosanna, so very sorry for your distress, hugs to you and a prayer for your precious husband that he have a peaceful passing. i feel the same as you and will be doing exactly as you when our times comes. taking in each and every last moment together. divvi
CKKGRAM, I have been grateful every time one of my sisters or brothers on this group has told us exactly what is happening during the final days. Please do not apologize for letting us know. It is OK for you to need to tell someone, and I am so grateful you were willing to share.
I know that my husband will end up going the same way yours is. He is far enough along now that it is obvious that he won't have an easy, earlier, death. The dementia is what will take him. I also know that I always react better to new downturns if I already know they are coming.
This week talking to funeral directors are on my to do list because it is time to make plans, now, before I actually need to.
So thank you again for your honesty, and know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.
Bless you Roseanna for your post and letting us know just how it can be in the last final days, as I guess we in this group all wonder how it will end. We all would hope that our loved one will pass easily, but know that perhaps only the lucky ones will go before the last terrible days. My thoughts and prayers are with everyone who is facing the last days with their loved one and hope that they will find some measure of comfort in the fact that it is all over for them. It was interesting to read that others are in the same position as I find myself in, it is a second marriage for us allbe it 33 years, and his 3 girls don't want to know anything about him. This saddens him at times and I have to distract his mind on to something else, as he was a hands- on father, and his girls are very cruel about this. Hugs to all carers.