I invite you to log onto the home page - www.thealzheimerspouse.com - and read today's blog. Does anyone else feel as I do? Especially those of you who work. I work at home, and can make my own hours, but my work hours take a back seat (no pun intended) to all the &*%$#@ driving.
I don't work Joan but I know what you mean about the driving. It didn't bother me in the begining but it is starting to get to me. DH's doctor's appointment, my appointments, trips to the pharmacy to pick up prescriptions, grocery store, DH to barber shop, out to lunch once in a while and church on Sunday. Who know's what will come up next but like everything else we do the best we can with a TIGHT smile on our face. lol
I have to do the same - no one here to help. I really like to drive, so that isn't a problem. It's just that there is always somewhere we have to go! Thank goodness I can leave him home for most of my appointments!
Yep, Jean, we just do the best we can with a "tight smile on our face".
My situation is somewhat different. My wife has lost her iniative to go anywhere most of the time. Despite this, she still lets me know, quite angrily, that she feels like a prisoner in our house because I won't let her drive to go anywhere by herself. (She hasn't driven since last August.) I'll then say, just tell me where you want to go and I'll take you ... to visit a friend, to go shopping, etc. ... but she never does. She can also call upon our daughter who lives just 2 doors down ... but she never does. From time to time, though, she cries and screams about her lost freedom to go where she wants when she wants.
I've been on both sides of the driving/being driven coin and there is a big difference. There is a huge sense of fredom and control when you can jump in the car and go. Even though you can still go someplace, being driven by someone else, is NOT the same.
I no lnger drive and neither DH. I still get tired out/worn out planning and arranging for our tranportation. Same thing, different means of getting it done.
I, too, am getting tired of driving. In the last month DH has been to the dentist three times. Each time he goes, I go. He insists I stay in the room with him. He has had a cleaning, x-rays,exam, filling, a crown, an abscessed tooth and a root canal. Besides very tiring, it also cost about $2500. That is only part of my job. We have gone to Alzheimer's group meetings, the neurologist, to the BAP study for an infusion in the last month. We are giving his car to our granddaughter and I can see that he is having second thoughts. The car has been in our garage for the last 18 months and rarely driven. He never complains about my doing the driving. I think he knows he can't drive safely.