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bluedaze Comment Time1 hour ago edit delete
The emotional divorce can become void. My dear husband will most likely not last the week. Hospice has the crisis team on call. Emotions are all over the place.
Just checking in this morning and completely understand the emotions all over the place, Bluedaze. Self=protection devices like 'emotional divorces' don't work very well in circumstances such as this. It is what it is and I'll be keeping you in my prayers. You have been a clear,straightforward and kind help to me in my various muddles. Sending you hugs right now.
Oh Nora, how my heart aches for you as I sit here typing with tears in my eyes. Just 8 weeks ago I heard those words. They change everything, don't they. Please know that you are surrounded by the unconditional love of all of your cyber family. We are with you and that my friend won't change. Arms around, Susan
nora, we are all here holding your hand sweetie. take a deep breath, it is what it is and we have no control over this disease- maybe he will rebound as he has done in the past. divvi
Bluedaze, I'm going through the same thing at this time. The family, what there is of it, is gathering. I'm watching, we're all waiting. This morning, John is better, they were able to clean him up while he was sedated last evening. Yes, emotions all over the place. If you want to talk, you can e-mail me. Jen
It really is confusing, isn't it? On the one hand, when we remember all the years we have spent together and the good times, we don't want them to leave us. On the other hand, we don't want them to continue any longer in their present state where life no longer has any meaning. So, of course, we have totally mixed emotions. We feel guilty when we think it would be better for them to die and go to a better place. We feel guilty when we want them to stay, living in the state that they are. It's a no win situation.
I just got back from Broadmoor. Bill's room was bright and sunny. Lots of folks from hospice were in and out. He will not be alone at any time. Liquid morphine is easing his air hunger somewhat. Everyone left the room so we could be alone. One by one there would be a knock on the door for another staff person who wanted to come in and cry with me. No regrets.
Nora and Jen. I haven't been on this site for very long as others here have been, so I don't know you very well. But, I have been reading your comments for a while and look forward to them. Just reading your comments above brought tears to my eyes. I send you prayers and hope that you will get through this very trying time with courage, knowing you have many friends who wish you peace and love.
Dearest Lord, We thank you for leading us all to this amazing support site. We have gathered together and become family. When one of us hurts, we all hurt. As each of us struggles to get through each hour of each day, we take comfort in knowing that we are surrounded by all of these friendship angels. None of us has to go through this pain alone. For this and so much more, we are grateful. Amen.
Nora, I hope you understand when I say I'm relieved for you both that it's finally over. Three years with hospice is an agonizingly long time. You've fought the good fight on Bill's behalf. May your Higher Power grant you strength and serenity in the days ahead.
Nora I am so sorry to hear about Bill, may you fine peace and comfort in the days ahead((((((((((((((((HUGS MY DEAR FRIEND)))))))))))))))))))))) YOU EARNED YOUR STAR. Gail