It is 7:30 PM here on the East Coast, which makes it pretty late for posting a weekend blog, but I invite you to read it, and you will see why it is so late. We had quite a busy afternoon. Please log onto the home page - www.thealzheimerspouse.com - and read this weekend's blog about the Joan and Sid teamwork.
joan glad your day was good and sounds like you found the right recipe for working together. it definitely makes it enjoyable to do things together without the arguments or stress.
Three cheers and a tip of the bonnet to you & Sid! Teamwork as you organized it was probably even better than in the "old days," and you can savor the 2 hrs 45' for a long time as you enjoy the patio set. Which, btw, looks VERY comfy!
So happy you had a rewarding experience that you handled so well. We paid a lot more than you did for the same "chat set," but I waited until Kenneth went to bed and put it together myself. I remembered when we tried to install a bike rack "together" a few months ago; it was not a successful partnership, so assembly of such things is now in the category with so many other "You're on your own, kid" projects.
covco, welcome; and I'll just bet my bottom $ you've been reading here for awhile. It's a grand place to chat w/friends who understand our lives after dementia invades and to get good suggestions and information. A few years ago, my hb and I bought a set and got it partly put together--then called in the granddaughter who just looks at things and knows how they should go together. She sews that way, too; sees something she likes, goes home,makes a pattern and sews it up. Now she's working at our little county airport upholstering seats, etc. of small airplanes. Leather in the current one, and she's looked up info on line, looked at original seats and away she "flew." Sorry off topic.
Joang, I understand the issue with teamwork. Lately my dh can't even nail one nail in the wall where you show him it needs to go. That really makes it a challenge for us to do much together without me always supervising what is being done. I am a take control person also so it is hard for me to wait while someone that is slow and confused and does not understand what he is doing is trying to do something. You can understand why I perfer to do it myself. But I am having to learn to stop and assist him with things.
My dh still has his mind when it comes to knowing he is not performing correctly. I so wish that he could not understand the problems he was having. It is hard seeing him feeling so useless.
I set aside a specific time for both of us to do a task. Any task. I let him help me remove the items from the package and I read the instructions. We work together to assemble things. I end up doing most of the work but he gets such a beautiful smile and feels so much better about himself and his abilities when we are done. I am learning to relax more and smell the coffee......if you will.......
Not only do you have a nice setting area you have some memories that will last forever.....