Before I can answer your questions, I need to know - how far is the move? I'm assuming you are taking your husband with you? Are you moving from a house to a house? To an apartment? An assisted living facility? Will your husband be living with you or in a separate facility? What is his level of functioning and understanding?
I moved across town last summer with a husband who I thought would have no trouble handling it. Wrong. So I do have a lot of advice, but need to know more information first.
DD I agree that you haven't shared enough info for us to help you. You may find that the friends you used to have won't be there for you. There rarely is the wonderful "going home". Most folks have moved on with their lives and things won't be the same. Living in a town you don't like with a job you hate is another matter. That you can control. Good luck and please let us know what you decide.
I agree we'd need more information to give informed suggestions/agreement, but "you can't go home again." It's never just as you left it; people and communities are constantly changing. However, I wouldn't want to live where I hated my job and felt like an outsider in a community. If you move, don't have high expectations that life will be the same as it was in the past.
I think you posted before about it and at that time you were staying put. But I agree, if your future life is back with family and friends, then move and he will adjust. To stay where you are so isolated is not good for you. If you stay you may end up resenting your husband because you don't move due to it being difficult on him. this in turn will affect your attitude and how well you can adjust to the stress coming.
DD, my advice on moving is have a huge yard sale and get rid of as much "stuff" as possible, before you pack. Then run into the arms of those that you love in Ohio. You are so lucky to have a place that feels like home. All our friends are down in Massachusetts, but Maine still feels like home. Keep us posted on your progress. It's great that your sons agree, how old are they??
Hi, all! Craig is in a NH that is part of a chain. There is another of their facilities in the town I am moving to. The SW is co-ordinating his move for me.
I just came back from a 4 day weekend in the place I am moving too.Found an apt, reserved the truck, making a to do list. Our friends are anxious to see us return, and have already offered to help with the Unloading at that end.
I have been out of work now for various reasons since mid Feb, and not one phone call or email from anyone at work to see how I am doing, but the people who live in Ohio have kept up with everything. I think that says something.
I need to know if anyone has tips on what I need to do with Craig's SSDI and Medicaid. That seems to be the only thing no one can help with.
And we will be cutting the household down to bare minimum before the move.I'm not as young as I used to be!
DD, SSDI only needs a new address or checking acct #. Medicaid may be able to give you the name and # of the person in Ohio who will have your case, usually based on your last name. You are awesome, what a job you are doing! Don't forget to breathe!
What court assigned guardianship? I'd assume that is in your paperwork. I'd contact them. I have no experience with stuff like this just tossing out ideas. Our District Agency for Aging has info for contacts for legal questions (plus other stuff as well). Social Worker may be of help, too. Best wishes on your move!
i think i would contact an elder atty and ask once you get to the residence state if your paperwork is valid for their state laws. many states have difference requisites for wills, dpoa and other legal docs. some need to be witnessed others dont. i would definately check with an attorney in the new state. it couldnt hurt to call the courts who issued it either and ask but they will probably defer to a legal authority in the new state for direction. divvi
The court that issued the guardianship will have to know where you are moving. They are the ones who you have to report to every year....I am sure your local attorney can handle this for you...for a fee, of course...!