Just finished funeral plans for hubby. Knew I wouldn't be able to handle it later. Applied for STD this morning. Hopefully meds and therapy will help. Can't seem to will myself to do anything normal nowadays. I know the end is near, I can feel it in my heart. wish I still had someone to hug me and tell me it will be alright.
Prayers and cyber hugs to you ((((hug)))). I haven't gone through this yet, just general conversation w/hb and family; but I know you can get through this stage as others of "our family" have described the journey.
I have just been there. (((((hug))))) It will be ok. It will be a month on Wed., I didn't think I could survive a day without him,let alone a month. It will be hard, but it will be peaceful for you both, he'll have no more confusion, pain or loss of himself. And you can say to yourself, you did your best and you loved with all your heart. We had a 10 year battle, and I only got stronger with each day. You don't realize it when you are in the journey, it hit me when it ended how strong I have become. It will be ok.
Prayers going up for you at this difficult time. I lost my mom to this disease. I was with her at the very end and somehow she knew it.I spoke to her and she nodded so I like to think it was her way to say thank you for all you tried to do for me, not leaving me alone all the last 11 days..This is the hardest part of the journey,,that final farewell. Know that he will fare well and we will too but it just takes time.
d.d., You CAN get thru this. Just take one minute at a time. Take it one breath at a time. You ARE NOT Alone. Please post often. We love you and are here for you. God will give you the strength you need, if you ask. Arms around, Susan
durantsdaughter. I have been there. It has now been 9 weeks and things do get better. Just take one step at a time and you can e-mail me if you want. My name is in my profile. (((((((HUGS)))))))
Thank you everyone for your support. I wish the people closest to me that should be here for me would do the same, but they have all distanced themselves. Guess this is when you find out who your real friends are.
durantsdaughter...you WILL find honest, REAL friends here. Trust me, in times of trouble, they are here with you. We're not just "cyber" friends without faces....we're all here for you. We pay attention. Here are more hugs (((()))))
I wouldn't be too critical of your friends... grief is very personal and no two people do it the same. Most people don't know how to handle their own grief and are completely in the dark when it comes to what others may need. Time heals. Some of us have gone where you are and some like me are not too far behind. There is comfort in shared experience and solace in understanding. WE understand.
DD, it threw me for a bit of a loop when I got his funeral figured out and planned. Kind of surprised me how strongly I reacted to the whole thing. He just had his first apiration pneumonia and that threw me again. How do I get through the day? I still work so always have something waiting for me to do. I have also learned the value of doing something for myself on a regular basis. Sometimes that something is very small as in dusting a room because it needs to be done and I haven't gotten to it for a while - it makes me feel good to see the room dust free. Sometimes it is a manicure or hair cut.
He will be gone and you will still be alive - don't let what is happening to him take you too. He would not want that.