DH was doing so well on the 100mg of Zoloft so I thought everything was just fine. This morning he started again on the house deed, the woman down stairs (bottom floor) and the retired military man also bottom floor. He went for a walk early this morning in about 27 degree weather so I know he didn't see either of them. In fact I don't think the man is here, he and his wife leave at times to go to their other home in NC. And again "they" want him to do "something".
I'm really not sure what he was trying to say because he can never explain anything. I told him that none of it was true and it is the Alz. making him think these things. I also told him if someone wanted him to do something it would come from the HOA. I probably shouldn't have, but I am sick and tired of having to go through it every so often. Lord knows what anyone would want him to do because he can't concentrate long enough to follow a TV show.
Okay folks, I've vented and I hope I won't need to again.
I did not exactly follow what you were saying, but what I can say is that you are wasting your breath and patience telling him that none of it is true or trying to explain anything to him. What usually works pretty well is if they are complaining about someone or something that is not true, just say - "Okay, I will talk to them about it". Chances are good he will then forget about it. Until the next time, and you can say the same thing. I do it all of the time.
Telling him that it is the Alz. making him say these things sent my husband into a wild irrational ranting rage. They don't get that AT ALL.
jean, AD strikes again. yep as soon as we think things are under control its not:) i think you said your DH was in 'law enforcement" could that have something to do with all these folks wanting him to 'do something'. it could explain the parking maybe.. haha.. always on the lookout for something not 'right'... i dont know the solution either, but just try to turn a blind eye and find a reply that is long committed and can give him some peace til next time. maybe try explaining just for the sake of it that where you live has a really good security system in place and that they will take care of everyone if they need something.. heavens only knows what runs thru their minds, poor buggers.. (((NIKKI)) divvi
I find that it is so hard for me not to reason with my DH. Yes I know that it is impossible but when he is so upset about those men that come around (Mirrors) that is is looking every where for them I try to explain that he is seeing himself in the mirror.No, he is not that short, bald headed old man and he knows he is up to no good. Okay, tell me again that you cannot explain. I did handle one worry yesterday. He kelp saying I don't wont to do it, I don't wont to do it. Finally I understood him..he didn't want to be the secretary at the Elks Lodge. They were asking him to take that job. Never mind that he has not been to a meeting or function in about 10 years. I told him I would talk to them and not to worry. Wish I could take care of all the problems as well.
The strange thing is when he came up with some of this stuff after we had seen the neuro and I told him the doctor said these things weren't true and it was the Alz. making him think they were he accepted it. At least until this morning, I guess he forgot!!!!
Absolutely he forgot. Below is the very first story I put in my "Humor" section on the left side of the home page. Every single word is true.
As soon as my husband, Sid, was diagnosed, the neurologist immediately put him on Aricept. He gave him a sample package. I left Sid at home with the package and its accompanying literature while I went out to do some errands.We had been talking about the possibility of Alzheimer's Disease causing his bizarre symptoms for 2 years, and had discussed what the disease was. When I returned, he was sitting on the couch, looking quite depressed. He told me that he had read the pamphlet, and then said, "Well, I guess it's downhill for me from here." Trying to be as gentle as possible, I said, "But you knew what Alzheimer's is, didn't you?" He looked at me in all seriousness and said, "Well, yeah, but I forgot."
I know what you and Divvi are saying Joan. I think my problem is because my DH is so high functional in other areas I think he can "get" what I am saying. I really should know better because sometimes when I am telling him something there is a completely blank look on his face. I will have to think faster in the future and come up with something to distract him. I don't know if I will ever get used to this damned disease.