I've now noticed and begun to understand what's been happening to me for what is probably years, now. As my children left home and John has progressed away from me, and I've built my own very private life, something else has manifested itself. As you know, I live on some acreage and have horses and cattle. Two hounds and a cattle dog live outdoors, and I have (at last count) two barn cats. Still have five equines here....one big Irish Draught cross at a trainer (still). YES, THEY'RE FOR SALE! I have one cat indoors to sleep with me and "make dough" on my lap. Three Love Birds, makin' babies all the time. One gorgeous male canary that sings to me in the morning while I take my bath and read in the sunlight, when there IS any. I go to the local pet shop every week to get my "pet fix" on. Bad news. I've fallen in love with a FERRET that I've already named "Sleasil" (a female). A male I'm considering I've already named "Diesel". Both are darling babies and I've had Ferrets before. LOTS of training is understood. I taught my last ones to go to the "potty" on COMMAND! They were always little gentlemen in our house.....except for the potted plants. They took those apart. Is something WRONG with me????? I really want to go get one or the other tomorrow. I have the time and dicipline to give them to make them (or one of them) into a wonderful, dear pet. The last time I had Ferrets, I had a hoouse over 5,000 sq.ft.......I could call them by name and they would come.....and never an "accident" in any corner or under furniture (I'm better at training animals than humans, apparently). HELP. Opinons????? Also, I have a male friend from my childhood that I've sort of invited to visit this weekend. When he leaves (he's offered to do so much work for me that needs to be done before spring), he wants to travel on up to Buena Vista to visit with John. That would be great, but John would probably DISJOINT him with accusations of being one of my "lovers". Any SANE suggestions?
I would say you should have as many pets that you can care for financially and have time for. As far as your boyfriend what you want to do on the side and out of sight of your husband I do not have issue with but I would advise not to visit him with your boyfriend unless you have an agreement with your husband that it is ok and then I still would not do it.
yep, I've even told my neighbors up the lane that he may be visiting. Not a boyfriend, just a friend from the old days. John's met him and we've had him as a guest before. John ALWAYS objected to ANY visitors, even female.
Jen, you would be asking for trouble if your friend visited John and it would serve NO PURPOSE either way..John would not know him (1) or would be upset if he did (2). Enjoy your visit, but don't ask for more trouble than you already have. I agree with others, I don't think you need a ferret right now. Who would care for them when you go back for more surgery which is almost guaranteed. Take care of Jen., visit your loving little ferrets in the pet store and Leave them there when you leave. It's one thing to have someone feed your cat...would your mother want to care for the ferrets as well...(and I'm sure she'd be the one there for you after the surgeries..) I'm thinking like a MOTHER here, because I'm almost old enough to BE your mother. Get yourself back onto a solid footing before you add to your menagerie. You asked for opinions - and you have mine... By the way...I think you should invite your old friend and have a great time..Take him to that music place you enjoyed. You deserve to get out and have a good time.
Some do moorsb. A high school friend of my husband come to visit this summer. We went out to dinner with the neighbors and come to find out they lived in the same little town in NC at different times and knew some of the same people. After dinner I ask him if he planned on visiting another high school friend who lives not too far away, he said he thought he'd just spend the night and go back to his SIL the next day. His wife was visiting her sister and couldn't come with him. I'm glad I have an upstairs because I guess I'm old fashion but I felt strange having him spend the night. We sat up half the night and talked about DH. Then he went upstairs and I stayed down. No hanky panky just talk. He said he just wanted to make sure I was doing alright. He and his wife would come from AK to MI every summer to check on DH. Another caring friend.
Jen, here are my suggestions although not necessarily SANE. Hold off on the ferret(s) for the reasons Nancy gave. Invite your old friend but do NOT take him to the NH with you to see John. Just my two cents which may not even be worth two cents.