I am a 51 y/o husband with a 59 y/o wife (dx 2 years ago) and have been following this site for over a year now. (Not too active because I still have to work)
I will say to anyone who ends up here how important it is to just start reading the posts. (they can be searched)
I initally coped with the Dx by intectualizing and trying to cure my knowledge deficit. I read all I could on all the traditional sites and books. (even some hard core medical literature) I found out that this is where the real information is! Nothing held back, nothing shrouded in euphanisms or generalities. Facts, details and observations from people who are there.
I have also learned how little knowledge people have about AD, including people who should know. (MDs & other professionals)
My own fear & panic of the unknown and the future was calmed by everyone who has shared their story here. (THANKS!!) I can calmly go forward from my inital disorientation.
One of the best things to come out in these boards that is not in most other sources, is that virtually nothing your AD spouse does is truly new. Even though every AD person is different, no matter how bizzare their behavior is, SOMEBODY here has seen the same thing and can offer suggestions. (just ask)
Sorry to everyone who has to come here, but rest assured you have found the right place.
My feelings exactly, m-mman! It was only through my insistence and my daughters pleading with his PCP to find out what was wrong with him that he finally checked for a neurological reason for his changes.