I encourage all to go to Bill/Carol's blog and watch the tribute to their 50 years together. It is beautiful to watch. I had to start it a second time and stop it on the picture of Carol all contorted. She was very limber and is beautiful. Bill is pretty handsome too. Watching the video of pictures was like going through a history of hair and clothing styles - brought back memories.
Here is the link in case you don't have it: http://howiscaroldoing.blogspot.com
charlotte, thanks for posting this news. However, a lot of the excitement and memories of our 50 years are being tempered a lot by our decision to place Carol in an Alz unit, (level2 of 5) part of Christian Care Center. Carol has really gone down in last two months especialoly last few weeks and my ability to serve her has also decreased. She is only 150# but that makes it very hard for me to get her up shen she gets down by actions or a fallo. No bad falls yet but we are very worried. My two children have been very supportive and they have actually felt it would be best for the last year. But I have just not been able to reach that same decision. I am still very worried about how she will accept it. So sad. bill
bill, would it be an option to try a 1 day respite at the facility and ease her into it that way? I know around here all the facilities have 1 or more temporary respite periods. If you get down then there will be no options left for you. I know the last month here with Paul I was really stressed and had actually asked Hospice to start the NH route.
there are several options that we did and should have considered, like more home care, some respite, etc. but it finally seemed to come down to the point that this was the time. The motto that Joan and others have made-"sooner rather than later" kept coming back to me. It is surely the hardest decision I have ever made and scares me to death. I lay in bed every morning worring about all sorts of things that might or could happen. I don't know if I will ever be comfortable with this move. I am just trusting God to lead us and care for both of us. Thanks for your kind words. bill
I just watched the video. I cannot think of anything that would have been better than that to celebrate a life together. It was perfect, wonderful. I encourage everyone to watch it.
Carol is a beautiful lady and your love for her is shown by your caregiving. You will still be caring for her in the Alz unit. We all must recognize when we need to do as you are doing. Lots of Bear Hugs coming your way.
With Bill's permission, I have written a blog for the weekend about celebrating life, which I think this video does so well. I invite you to read the blog,view the video and post comments here. Thank you.
Great video. It made me go back and look at the slide show, without music, we made for our 50th 6 years ago, before AD became a major issue. Looking at something like that sure brings back the memories of more pleasant times.
Marsh, maybe you can start a blog and post it for us to see. It makes you all more real when seeing pics. That is what is nice with Facebook - adds another dimension to our family here.
My daughter says it is real easy. She uses something on Windows and is putting together some instructions that I will send to yall on this thread and also start a new thread. Maybe we can all learn something simple. I hope so.