Does your love one talk about people who have passed away? Mine sometimes talks about his mother asking if she called. Or sometimes he talks about his brother.
Yes, mine is constantly talking about his mother or father or deceased brother. very common.
Read the "Understanding the Dementia Experience" link on the left side of the home page - www.thealzheimerspouse.com- porkhck; there are more things there than you can think up!
When they start talking about dead relatives coming to visit, there is no sense in telling them that the person is dead. They will not agree, and they will forget anyway. The best advice is to "Live in their world." Tell them the person will be home later or is on vacation - will be home next week, then distract them with another activity. They will soon forget what they said. Until the next time.
My DH...is always talking about his Mother..wants her to come over..or will ask if I called her...he will also ask and want to visit My Mother..He will talk about his Brother, who has passed away...he will look at our Son's picture, who has passed away, and think that is his brother. This morning at 1;00am...he was wanting to leave the house, to go home....every day is a new challenge...God Bless us All... By the way, when he was so agitated this morning, I gave him a Xanax, that did help, he calmed down and fell asleep...
You must remember they are regressing back not only physically but mentally. Their present becomes wherever they are in the regression. Otherwise they forget the present going backwards in time.
This one will go, and then return, over and over, in my experience. What I love is the incredulous look in my husband's eyes when I say, well, I'm not your mother today. He looks at me as if I'm trying to pull something over on him, to tell him something that is obviously not true. It doesn't distress him for me to do so, just slightly confuses him. Other days he acts like, of COURSE I know you're my wife, I just have misplaced your name somehow.
Lately my DH is calling me "Honey". Sometimes he knows me and other times is looking for me. I notice if he is hungry or needs to make a trip to the bathroom, he knows my name. LOL
My DH asked me today how his mother was getting along. She died in 1967. This was not the first time he asked. I usually give him some blah answer. However, the other day I took him to his parents graveyard. Today, same question. I realize he will never really understand so try to distract. as you do with a 2-year-old.
I don't know if anyone elses loved one does this. My husband does know that his parents are gone but whenever we pass the cemetary where his parents are buried he will say to me that is where "Earl and Mary" are -- not mom and dad. I don't know why that bothers me.
Tonight when I finally got the wine bottle out of dh's hands and was putting it back in the kitchen he said, "How's come that bottle is half empty already -- have my parents been here?" (they've been gone for many years, and never drank wine)