I'm leaving in a little less than 2 hr to be gone overnight 3 night in DC for a conference. I have my sister-in-law staying here, another sister-in-law in town as a backup and my DH's daughter and family who will be here two of the nights. I got the sisters all oriented as to what to expect. DH basically is dependent for all ADL, but while at home and nothing is moved he can do his own basic care, bfast & TV dinner lunch, still is oriented to go for walks, etc so is safe to be home some by himself, but not overnight.
So far, not up in the nighttime routinely unless his covers get tangled badly and then he wakes me. Either I'm in our bed ,or if I have trouble sleeping due to his new habit of snoring which I prefer not to deal with for the year or so remaining, I'm in a bedroom upstairs. We cuddle and then I put a body pillow between us and we each have our own covers or he does wake me up. I'm thinking I'll get a duvet or just sew together his blankets after I get together so he only has one thing to 'pull up' for covers. Except for this he is OK overnight...well until the next 'thing'.
I got all ready for my trip and got to sleep with no meds by 10:30 pm (so proud), ready to get up 2:30 am to travel and catch a red-eye. So at 12:15 am I wake up with the BR door open, hall light on, and hear my sis-in-law upstairs saying 'We will find her.' I hop out of bed, while saying his name. So far, he does NOT wake me but one night out of 5 or so.
I told them he might come up to their room looking for me when I'm gone. Never expected it BEFORE I left. Sigh. So much for 4 hr sleep, now reduced to...lots less. Took some xanax so I'm going to give it a shot, but sleeping in the same bed after an incident like this is hard, so I may end up on the couch. DH told me about 4 times as we were going to sleep that he will really miss me. I reassured him and told him he would have a great time while I was gone. Must be bothering him tremendously for him to forget I was in the bed. When he returned he apologized.
Tonite (my night) though I'm starting to think I need to pick one of the 3 facilities that are the best of the group. That step may be here sooner than I had thought. One year ago he drove us 500 miles...well I drove back as he should not have probably, but it was uneventful...and was just handing over the bookwork as he could no longer manage the software/data entry. WOW. I'll be off this for awhile as I'm out of town. And certainly look into respite there in May when I go to my son's graduation...if DH is even still at home.
I'll look at this when I return. Basically just therapeutic to write while the xanax kicks in and I figure out...couch or bed. Thanks for being there.
So page 2 of the story. Could not get back to sleep for 1 hr...what's the point. So back here, writing in my journal, made a pot of coffee...will probably drink the whole 12 cups before I leave, or I might leave some for him. He just got up again and looked out and saw me here. I told DH to 'go to bed' and he did. Hope he does not go upstairs and wake his sister when I leave in 45 minutes!