Shoegirl's husband was rushed to the hospital by the EMT's yesterday after lunch when he became short of breath, his knees buckled and he was very disoriented. They have ruled out stroke, but they are still running tests, 2 days later. Anne (Shoegirl) has not left the hospital all of this time. I know she is in desperate need of our prayers, love, cyberhugs and good wishes. She's been very strong, but being the loving wife she is, staying at the hospital 24/7 for two, going on three days HAS to be taking its toll on her. Let's remind her how we care for our own in this extended family. Love,Nancy
Thanks, Nancy, for letting us know. Anne must be totally exhausted! Cyber hugs, prayers and love going out to you and your DH, Anne. Please try to take care of yourself.
Shoegirl (Anne) I am going to keep you and your husband in my thoughts and prayers. I hope that you will be able to take some time for yourself but I know that I wouldn't be able to leave my husband's side either. Hugs and Hugs! Belinda
Shoegirl- You are in my thoughts and prayers. Big comfort hug for you, and I think "he became short of breath, his knees buckled and he was very disoriented" describes being in love, more than a serious issue...
((Shoegirl)) keeping you and your husband in my thoughts. I hope you aren't having to sleep in one of the hospital chairs, my back aches just thinking about it. Take care of you too, you will need to be rested up for when you bring him home. ((hugs))
Shoegirl, prayers are with you and hubby and all who are caring for him. Phranque, I'll bet no one's ever told you you have a great sense of humor; so here's a first:)
Thanks so much everyone! It is great to feel so much support...one night in a lumpy recliner in the staff breakroom, 2 nights on an indented cot and now tonite I am home (without Bryan). We took him via medical transport to a nursing care facility/rehab center tonight to see if physical therapy will help him to walk again. I am not hopeful. No diagnosis, I guess it's just the ALZ taking it's toll. On Monday he could walk and sit and stand and lay down on his own and three days later he can't. I cried all the way home tonight...still am. It's just so very sad.
This was definitely one of the worst days of my life...but I am still here (and it could've been worse) I am so thankful for my friends and kind strangers...
Anne, I am sending my love to you. I really wish that this would not have happened to you and your hubby(it did happen to both of you) but this disease doesn't seem to care and I can totally understand why you cried all the way home and are sad still. I wish there was something I could physically do to help but listen to what you have to say and give you as much support as cyber space can give you. Big hugs and kisses.
((Anne)) How very difficult for both of you! How is your husband coping being away from home and in a strange place? Are they giving up on diagnosing what could have caused this? Poor bugger it must be very hard for him...and very hard for you to witness. Praying the rehab does work and they can figure out what happened to better treat him. Keeping you deep in my heart thoughts and prayers ((hugs)) Nikki
This is scary Anne, that he can't walk now - are you sure he hasn't been given meds in the hospital that kept him quieted down? Okay, he didn't have a stroke or a heart attack. Has anyone given consideration to the "absence seizures" or TIAs that a lot of our spouses have? When my husband had one and got taken to the hospital, they wanted to do MRIs etc on him and mishandled his very sensitive "bad leg" He yelled. They gave him seroquel, 3-4 a day, which quieted him down for sure. He couldn't walk. I came in (I'd been out of town) and within a half an hour had him up with a walker which he was accustomed to use. That was over a year ago and he's still, more or less, walking. No seroquel.
The hospital people seemed to be baffled at his problems. It was only after we talked about the seizures here and found that a lot of our spouses have them that I realized how clueless the hospital staff was.
Hugs coming your way, Anne. I am hoping the stay in the rehab will bring about some good results. Try now to get some rest....easy to say, hard to do, I know.
Oh Anne, three months ago, Jim was mowing the lawn, now he is in a wheelchair. We've checked for evidence of TIA's and Strokes, it is just (ya just) the FTD. This flipping miserable disease just strike where and when it wants.
He definitely wasn't given meds, but I agree Briegull, I think maybe it was a TIA. Whatever it was, the results are pretty far reaching.
I got a little rest last night...was really worried about how Bryan's night would be. But when I got there this morning, they had him up in a wheelchair and he was eating breakfast and waved at me. Then he was being assessed by the occupational therapist. I had his lunchtime caregiver go to visit him for some continuity and a familiar face, so I could go to work for a few hours. Now I am back home waiting for his daughter to arrive so I can take her to see him.
Will post when I can...
Susan L., I'm sorry to hear about Jim, I didn't know. Isn't it sobering how fast things can happen?
Dear Anne: Try to get some much needed rest..Your DH will be well taken care of...it is scary how fast they can make a change..Hugs and Prayers are with you
O, shoegirl, my heart goes out to you! So so hard!! Can only imagine how difficult this must be ~ We try so hard to do & do for our spouses and then just that quickly things change. Praying for you as you go through yet another part of this disease...Sad & numb with you!! (((((hugs)))))
Thanks natsmom. It's hard to believe this happened so quickly, it doesn't seem like that long ago that I stumbled upon this site...but I think it's been a while. I appreciate your support.
Shoegirl, if it had to be, I'm glad you were able to find a such a good place for Bryan. Once he settles in a little, hopefully you can get some rest and breathing space, a little time to adjust to such a big change. (((hugs)))
so sorry you had to place your dh, I understand,placing my dh was the hardest thing i had to do, i`m happy you found a place he will be comfortable and well taken care of. take care of yourself now
Ann sorry the time came. Your husband will have more stimulation with other residents and you will be able to pick up the pieces and get on with your live. No-it isn't what you had hoped for-but it is what it is and there is no changing it.
Shoegirl - Just checking on you...hope you are doing as well as you can be...it's the weekend...perhaps you are off on Sat/Sun and can get some things figured out without work looming over your head too :( Just wanted you to know I was thinking of you & praying for you...((((HUGS))))