Well, the decision is finally here. Something I have put off for a year. I guess I have been in denial about my husband's AD. I thought we could stay in our home until he would be placed in a nursing home. I love my home, my rose garden, having enough room for our large family to come and visit for the holidays, etc. However, as my husband's mind and abilities slowly slip away and I am having to take over all the duties of running and maintaining this big house, I realize it is too much for me. I can handle one or the other, taking care of the home or taking care of DH but not both, at least not very well. I get so tired at the end of the day. But I am an active, vital woman who fights to stay healthy and engaged despite the constraints of having a partner who no longer participates in our life together. So I must make decisions. We have to move but where? We live in Southern California where the climate is wonderful year round. We have several Assisted Living Facilities nearby and a glorious Active Adult Community in Nipomo, a few hours away up north. But there are reasons, neither is good for us....one, I am not ready for Assisted Living, two, I don't know if my husband is able to enjoy the Activities of the Retirement Community and what about when he is really unable to function at all. I don't know what to do. I welcome any insight or advice.

Savadele,

I moved your comments into the discussion topic on my blog today (Thurs. 8/20/09 - Joan's Blog - One Decision Can Make a Difference, as they are very appropriate to that discussion.

Would everyone please post their comments to Savadele under that discussion. Thank you.

joang