Just when you think things can't get any worse, the other shoe drops. Sunday/Monday am. 12am is, I got a call from my little 6 yr old grandson, that he had a bad dream and now he couldn't wak Mommy up, I told him that Gramma would keep him safe and be right there, I told him the police man would come, that he should let him in. I dressed and flew over there over back roads at about 75 mph. I found police and ambulance on scene, a female officer holding Dee and my daughter passed out cold. They packaged her up for transport and she began to rouse and become the beligerent drunk of days gone by. I wrapped Diego in a blanket and drove him to my house just 6 minutes away, handed him off to my Mom and went back to the hospital. I figured she'd learned her lesson, but upon arrival, back at the hospital she continued he horrible tyraid against ME! I looked at all the nurse, all of whom know me, and said, "I'm done" and walked out. This is like a rerun of when I took custody of Dylan 9 yrs ago. ONLY I WAS YOUNGER!! My heart, is so wounded, I had such high hopes for her, she had been sober for 2 years in a 2 yr detox program, when she "graduated" and moved up here. She was even talking of contiuning her Medical Assistant training to become an RN. Now this morning she didn't show up here, I drove over again, to find Dee sitting alone and looking lost. There on the counter was an empty whiskey bottle, I ran to the bedroom and found her passed out with the tv still on, wrapped in a bathrobe, At first to be honest with you, I thought she was dead. I used my EMS training, and tried painful stimuli to rouse her. She finally woke and became the beligerent bitch that she is when she's drunk. Police and ambulance arrived and I left with Dee. She gave them her sob story that if the took her into protective custody, she'd lose her job and apt. Helooooo, what about her 2nd son??????
The police are reporting her to Child Protective Services and I will gain guardian ship of him. I've shut off DH's phone that she was using and will take back his car that she has also been using. I've had enough of this. I've supported her for 26 of her 29 yrs, adopting her at age 3 and have been putting up with her crap since she was 13, in and out of rehabs and detox. Enough is enough. She needs to go forward, and make better choices. I have enough on my platter and now another child. I don't need anymore of her.
I never thought this was what I'd be doing at age 53, but I guess God has other plans for me. I just wish HE'd consult ME once in a while. I'm waiting for the Police Officer who was there to call me and I'll probably end up in Court today so that she can't take him tonight. Please pray and send me a baby blue rope. Arms around and around, Susan
Susan, the blue rope is on the way...... so is a fluffy chenille pink robe for you..... you deserve it. I am so sorry to hear what is going on with you. God Bless you for being there for the little ones. Hugs and prayers are also coming your way..... I hope your day gets better. Just know that even when God is not consulting you first that he is supplying the power and strength that you need to make it. Hang in there.........
SusanL, I do not know how you keep going with all that you have to put up with. I am so sorry it has all fallen on you and I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I guess you will have to use "tough love" for your daughter and I hope for her sake, her sons and yours she will come to her senses and realize just what she could lose. I have sent a prayer up for all of you so just hang tight and do what you need to do. God Bless.
Oh Susan, what a nightmare. What more are you expected to endure, I don't know. Seems you can't get a break. Will be keeping you in my thoughts and sending positive energy your way.
Susan, I know words can't help a lot and I have nothing else to offer except my love, support, and prayers. I just wish I lived near you and I would do all I could to help you. Please keep coming here to vent, rant, whatever you need to do. And, you are doing the right thing with your daughter. Love and prayers, Vickie.
SusanL, GOD BLESS YOU HONEY, you are such an inspruation to me, I wish I lived by you, I would help you with the little ones, I used to have a home daycare, took care of many little kids, my heart aches for you and all you have to endure, be strong my friend and enjoy that fluffy chenille robe and grab on to the babyblue rope. Maybe this is God`s way of telling your daughter shape up or else, he knows the boys are in good loving hands. Gail
Susan, in some states a grandparent can apply to be a FOSTER PARENT and get a monthly stipend for the child's expenses. Is Maine one of them? Please ask Child Protective Services about that. They should be happy to help you if so, because it takes a huge burden off of them. If your state allows this, this is money you are entitled to and deserve to get -- do not view this as "welfare."
Susan, your pain and heartache has no ends. i agree tough love all the way around this time. you yourself are at risk to fall way to illness under so much stress. you must see that your DH is placed safely in care and attend to his needs from a step back. you have your mom and now 3 children to care for? my heart breaks for your situation but you have shown us time and time again you are what endurance is made of. you have all of us here in your corner. you can get thru this one as well. if anyone of us choses to complain about anything today, we need to re=read your posts . hugs and pats on the back, divvi
Dearest Susan, my God, enough is enough. I've been thru what you are going thru, and you must walk away. there's no other way! God Bless you, you're a great Grandma, and your gandkids are lucky to have you! My arms are around you, and I'm sending up prayers. Take care, and keep us posted. Love ya!
Susan, we're all here to give you the moral support you need. I really feel for you. You have more than your hand full. Even tho she's your daughter, the time comes for tough love. It's just too bad for the kids. I'm glad they have you for their grandmother.
Susan, sometimes it seems God has lost sight of us, doesn't it? Well, He knows what is going on, and is giving you strength and love to get through all this. My arms are around you and my prayers are going up for you. Hang on, my friend, tomorrow will be a better day because of all your family here pulling for you.
You are a hero Susan, to your DH, your MOM and to your grandchildren. I wish I could be there and really help out but I can only send hugs and prayers and good thoughts. Alcoholism is a dreadful disease and only the sufferer can make the choice to help herself! You cannot, unfortunately do it for her. Please take care of yourself so that you can care for those who really need you. Blue rope out to you!!! ((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))...Sue
Susan, wish I could do more than just send more rope -- but you know our thoughts and prayers are with you all. Keep up the tough love, it's hard but the only way.
Susan, I add my thoughts to all those above. You are doing the right thing. Enough is Enough and you have to think of your grandchildren first now. Do check with child services to see if you will qualify for more assistance with this situation.
I cannot find the words to tell you how I feel except to say I am truly sorry for all the problems you are having. Since I don't have a magic wand I will Send a lot of prayers Upstairs for you and your family. Hang on when things are at their lowest point they have nowhere to go but up. Love and hugs
Oh, Susan, I am so, so sorry to hear about the "other shoe" I know what a devil alcoholism is from my first husband's experience. You are doing the right thing!!! Be strong. More rope and more prayers coming your way. (((HUGS)))
Susan, it seems like every time we think you're able to move away a little from that black cloud over your head, it just catches up with you again. I'm beginning to think it must be attached to you. I'm so very sorry. Prayers and thoughts of comfort are being sent your way. Hold on tight to us. Love.
SusanL, my prayers are with you. Thank God you were there for your grand son. He must be very very scared. Did you ask him about the bad dream?? It might not have been a dream. Give him lots of hugs and take a few for yourself.
Oh my dear family, thank you so much for all your words of encouragement. Diego is moved in and very happy about it, we'll see what happen when bedtime comes. Having been a foster mom and being an adoptive mom, I know that bedtimes can bring fear and tears, so I've set up his bed in my room where his Papa's bed was. Right now the boys are happy and playing nicely. I spent a long day in court getting a child protection order as instructed, now Child Protective Services takes over. She just came out of a TWO YEAR Rehab program, but evidentally began drinking almost as soon as she arrived in Maine and to think Jim and I had a DRY Reception after we renewed our vows in March,! Before the 2 yr rehab she had lost custody of Dee for close to a year. I thought the worst had happenned, that she HAD hit bottom, but I guess not. All is going well with Jim's hospitalization and pending placement so I thank God for that Much, can you imagine if he was home! OMG! I'll check-in tomorrow with you all. Thanks for all your love, it is really nice to have you guys to come home to :o)
Susan, I thought I had a problem..zero compared to what you are going thru...What a great grandma you are..such fortunate children. Will think of you with your boys.
Susan, draw strength from your Grandchildren and know that you did what had to be done. Most of us would walk through fire for our children but when that is not enough you have to back away. Been there done that.
Susan, may you gain the strength you need to get through this difficult time by accepting all the thoughts, prayers and love from your friends on this site. Keep us posted when you can.
Susan, I don't know what is harder-alcoholism or ad. I've been through both and do not envy your problems. Things happen for a reason-as they say and maybe that's why dh is in the hosp. waiting for placement. You are needed for another reason now. I will pray for you that you will have the strength to get through all of this. You must be an angel. See life through the eyes of your grandchildren. Sometimes, it's wonderful. Hope those "nightmares ' are over. How fabulous of your grandson to be able to call you. Your daughter was very lucky.
I thought my plate had turned to a platter, it is now a fullblown tray. On the upside, Dee slept very well in Papa's spot. He slept soundly, no crying like before. He is giving me lots of hugs and kisses. We need to get him into a better evening routine, and breakfast routine, but all that in time. He is happy, safe and content. Dylan is being the ultimate Big Brother. Our Dog Holly, came through surgery for a benign mass on her leg with flying colors. She is recouping on Dylans bed, drains and all. Oh well, that's what washing machines are for. She is after all Dylan's girl :o) Of all weeks for me to be running with Jim's family, my poor Mom has got the boys mostly to herself. So I sent her off to the store for a break, the guys love fruit and we are all out :o) ok, THEY ARE CALLING ME, GOTTA RUN. THANKS FOR ALL THE LOVE AND SUPPORT, I DO NOT KNOW HOW I WOULD GET THROUGH THIS WITHOUT YOU ALL. ARMS AROUND, SUSAN