He was mad because I went to WW this morning and didn't take him with me so he is pouting. I asked him a few minutes ago if he was ready to go out for lunch. No. Asked him if he wanted me to bring something back for him. No, again. Decided to let him pout and eat at home and go later today. I need to go to the bank and pick up a garden hose so if he is still pouting I am going to see if grandson will come over and stay with him since I already left him home alone for 2 hours this morning.
The pouting is hard because you feel sorry for them and they want you to feel sorry for them so you won't leave them again. It is another way for them to get a tighter hold on you. Part of my hard time last week was pouting. First DH did the anger thing, then the ignoring thing then the pouting thing. I don't know which was the worst. Probably the ignoring bugs me the worst. I always try to engage him in conversation when he is ignoring and end up making matters worse.
imohr i think you have the right idea go about your business and get GSon to come sit with him. it will go away on its own time. i wish i had done more of that! divvi
Well, I'm back. Ate and told him I would be back in a little bit and he was, as usual sitting in his recliner with his eyes shut. Didn't say anything. Since I planned to be back in an hour I called daughter and had her check on him in half an hour. She called me and said all was well, and he still didn't want anything to eat. This was the first time I had had this experience but I think you are right. I should get grandson to stay and go ahead because the world revolves around them most of the time. Anyway, my Monday mornings are going to be 2 hours at WW so I hope we don't have to go through this every week.
I have been there done that. It got so bad with my dh. One minute he was pouting like a 4 year old (arms crossed, head down, lip out, etc.). The next he was extremely angry. He's an anti-depressants now and his mood swings have gone. I haven't seen pouting for months!
The pouting..... and then retreating to his room. My husband has started pouting and retreating to our room. I am left with whatever else has to be done for the rest of the day unless he decided to come back downstairs and be a part of the family. I am trying to understand all of this crap but am getting Pretty Tired of dealing with all of it. He has a bad leg and when he is feeling bad, I get the attitiude about anything and everything. When he forgets something and I get upset even if I don't make a negative comment, I get the attitude and the "I am sorry, but I can't help it." If I never hear those words again, it will be too soon. Everything is becoming "the disease." When I leave it won't be just "the disease." I have so many negative feelings going on right now I could scream. One more pouting session, or walking out or I'm sorry, it is the disease, and I think I will walk out tooooo. For good.
mammie, I know. Think - this is soooo much better than ranting and raving or being violent or being incontinent. Just go to your computer and have your own private party and let him pout. That is fine with me if he wants to pout in another room. If he is irrating I leave him and go to my bedroom and read or play on the computer. The time that bothers me most if I have to stay home with him because he won't go. Going to call on the grandchildren more to stay with him. Thing is he doesn't really want me to go and not go with me, so that won't last long.