Bama i share in your good news. haha 5nites is indeed a plus! it is myopinion that whatever brand you use you must try to get a really good fit around the legs. if they are too big there will be wetness. a good leg fit and the pads inside and across the top has been a good match for us. i agree that the depends are easy to use with the tena thick cotton pads in side works really well. divvi
I had a new problem today. When we got back from lunch in a local restaurant I took DW to the bathroom as I usually do. I did not notice that she pulled her skirt (a one-piece pull over dress) under her across the toilet. When I came back she had had a BM in the skirt. I had a terrible time getting it off without smearing stool in her hair, but I managed. If it had just been peeing things would have been much easier. I didn't want to cut the dress off because it's what she wears all the time (I have 4 of them).
Marsh, Divvi is our queen, but you are now our king!
I had four pair of those elastic band slacks for my husband, and because of the increase in incontinence or "accidents" in the bathroom (dripping), I had to order two more pair so that I wouldn't have to wash every other day, but every third day! I also bought two pair of year round PJ bottoms for back-up, and for Hospice Hospital to use with him.
Marsh. My daughter and I were discussing bathrooms and the fact that many women leak around the bowel as bad as men do. I think it is because we are not sitting properly. Sometimes the lips are not separated and the urine goes wherever. If you use the porta potty, you might adjust it so that the back legs are a little higher than the front.
I got some sample nighttime Tena's. They are huge! Did not use them last night. Did put two tranquility side by side in the Depends, and usually put one on the side he sleeps on and one above the front area. Still wet! Oh, to have 5 nights of dry bliss! I am so jealous. Good for you Bama.
Does anyone else have the issue of a prostate problem (not cancer, just enlarged and on medication) along with the incontenance? I was wondering this morning if the amount of urine could be due to the prostate issue. Seems no matter how much padding I use, he is wet in the am and the disposables are filled to capacity and very heavy. Maybe it is just the incontenance but thought I would ask anyway.
Ladies & Gentlemen - I need your help please. Bill (husband) is in end stage and is totally incontinent. I have him on hospice care and am taking care of him at home. He is rapidly approaching the point where he will be completely bedbound. At the current time, I can still get him to stand up so I can change his diapers (I use the tab kind because he is very unsteady on his feet and they are easier to get off and on than the pull-ups) but does anybody have any suggestions on how to change him while laying down without making a huge mess. Hospice has furnished us a hospital bed that raises and lowers on both ends, hospital gowns and incontinence pads for the bed as well as his diapers, but when I asked them how to do it, I was told it was really hard with only one person. I figured somebody here had already gone thru this and could provide some ready answers! By the way, for those of you who are experienceing diaper rash with their loved ones, Hospice furnished me with a cream called Lantiseptic which zapped Bill's in one application. I would like to say how much I appreciate all of you. I truly have used this website on a daily basis while dealing with Bill's disease and have found a wealth of information and help. Thank you all so much for participating in a forum setting that is useful, informative and instructive. You all are truly angels.
When I was taking care of my father during hospice they showed me how to pull him over on his side and put a pillow on the upper part of his back to keep him on his side, lay down the diaper under his buttocks and then gently roll him back onto the diaper, following which you use the normal procedure for attaching the diaper. It worked well for me, even with a bad back.
Pam, I took care of my bedridden husband at home and changing them is easy. You do as Bev said...just roll them to one side, do the clean up, position the pad or diaper under them and roll them back over. The trick is to find out the best height position for the bed. Those hospice aides know how it is done. Have them do it while you watch and then do it yourself while they are there. After a few times you will be able to do it in your sleep...! Yes, Lantiseptic is a wonderful cream....I still keep it in the house.....
I found this info on another site: Several months ago I bought a couple of these Priva sheet protectors (washable quilted absorbent pads that wick the moisture away, with a backing to keep moisture off the sheet). I keep one under the bottom sheet on my partner's side of the bed all the time, just in case. We've had the odd leakage now and then or not making it out of bed in time -- and these pads have been wonderful.
They hold up well in the laundry -- dry fine in the dryer. I also like the fact that they do wick the urine away from my partner so she's not uncomfortable.
Two accidents this week are prompting me to order another pad or two, so I thought I'd post this enthusiastic review here too. Priva Premium Waterproof Sheet Protector, Mint
The company makes a smaller dark brown pad to put on a chair or car seat too.
Jean21 I think this matter is like most--with some it sets in and is all the time. With others it comes and goes. If your DH is willing to wear the Depends "just in case" I'd keep him wearing them, at least at night. In our case, his incontinence comes and goes, but it is becoming more frequent. Eventually, as with everything else it'll come to stay.
My dh had a couple "accidents" in recent months, but nothing serious enough to make him wear depends all the time. (I did give it a try, but he came into the living room holding them out to me, having taken off his shoes and pants all by himself into his usual underwear. Quite an undertaking for him because he hates changing clothes.
I bought the underwear at Walgreens and I think they are "heavy duty". So I am thinking of getting some that aren't so padded until DH needs the heavier ones.
I keep DW in Depends all day, every day. She goes through 4-5 Depends a day unless I get her to the bathroom every couple of hours. At night I keep her in the Overnight type, which is saturated by morning.
Ok, now that my dh is in disposables all of the time, I find his penis is becoming red and this morning his "balls" were a little red. I have been using the A&D (like Desitin) but wonder if that is good for his genitals. Has anyone encountered this? I use it on his butt and side where he likes to sleep. I try to keep the genitals clean. He can't tell me if it hurts so a lot of guessing. Is the Lantiseptic just like Desitin? Thanks again for the help and advice.
hes having a rash issue due to the ingredients in the diaper. i found alot of them caused this in my DH too. try a different brand and see if it clears up.. tena serenity or depends for men dont cause this in DH. also try a cotton liner pad in it to keep it away from his genitals. if all else fails contact his dr as there is a clobetasol/or steroid type ointment that helps alot. it can be painful and itchy is it gets bad. divvi
clotrimazole creme is also good for the rash but only as needed. i hope it clears up with changing brands. divvi ps i also use clobetasol at times. strong but works well.
If this has been said before, sorry (I have not reread the whole thread). Several people have mentioned that it is hard to get the depends off of their LO when they need to be changed. I have found it almost impossible, except when he is sitting on the toilet and has them down already. Once he even got in the bathtub with dirty depends on. I don't think that bath got him any cleaner. A couple times I tried to rip them off of him while he was standing, but this made him angry. It was as if I were ruining some precious garment. BUT: if I stand BEHIND him and rip, he hardly notices and it is really easy to pull them off. (DH stage 6)
Since my husband gets agitated when being changed, with the suggestion of the ALF, I buy the Adjustable Depends. They can either be pull ups or they can be changed by removing the Velcro tabs while standing, also they can be put in place standing.
Bigtreemurphy.com discusses getting the depends on and off with a very sick LO. I've never had to do this. I placed him just when depends might have been needed some of the time. In fact they didn't have them on him all the time for several weeks after placement. But her method really sounds doable.
After getting sprayed with urine from tearing off the Depends, I just keep scissors handy and cut both of the sides. Roll it up and goes right into the trash. I really like the Moliform liners as they can just be taken out of his underpants or pullups.
I know you've all had all kinds of experiences, but this was a first for me. I was in our master bath this AM, showering, DH asked if I was in there, I said yes, and told him to use the other bathroom. OK. Out of the showere, dried, dressed took the dog out, then went to wake DH because we had a dr's appt.... He is naked from teh waist down, and I can't find his depends nor his pajama pants. So into the bathroom, get him washed and dressed, go into the kitchen.... The cushion of his chair is raised (as one would do to a toilet lid) His wet pants and depends are on the floor, an the chair and the floor are WET. he must have thought the kitchen was the bathroom, raised the lid, sat on the chair, peed and then when he discovered his pants had gotten wet, left them on the kitchen floor. Now, I feel like I'm really part of the club.
Oh these stories of piddle problems are starting to worry me..none here yet but I am considering turning our tub into a bed and locking DH in there when this starts.oh lord..he and the cat can have that loo. On a serious note, this is something all of us not there yet do wonder and worry about...I can deal with the cat box...I wonder if he will try using that?
My DH used to pull his overnight depends apart and put them in the toilet. No fun to scoop out all that gel in the middle of the night. Now, for the last 2-3 weeks I have put nothing on him, put pads in his bed and got him some nightshirts. I also placed non-skid rugs on the hardwood floor that go from the bed, down the hallway and into the bathroom. He gets up every 2-3 hours to pee. So far, the bed has stayed dry, there were some little stains on the hardwood floor between the rugs, which I clean with vinegar and water. I put on my sleeping mask and now wear earplugs so I don't hear him get up. I've been sleeping better and might wake up only once. I then quickly check the pad on his bed to see if it is dry and go back to sleep. Better than worrying about the toilet being stuffed up. I think it was just too much padding for him and hard for him to get to the toilet. However, who knows for how long this will work.
My wife has been incontinent of both urine and bowels for over a year, maybe longer. Up until last summer it was a real problem cleaning her up after her usual diarrhea. This improved after her metformin (for diabetes) was reduced. Then she started having normal, formed, stools. I could get her to have a BM in the toilet if I took her often enough, and particularly after meals, and when I missed, they were easier to clean up. Urine has remained unchanged, but the Depends help. Yesterday she got up out of her chair and started pacing. I asked her what was wrong and she said she needed to go to the bathroom. I took her there and she had a very messy, watery BM IN THE TOILET!!!!!!! This is the first time she has asked to go to the bathroom, particularly with diarrhea. Is she getting better? No, just the usual up and down of AD.
marsh smile, give thanks! and dont ask too many questions.. hallelujah to get them to go in the toilet especially if messy. we see it all the time, yoyoing all the time ups/downs/plateaus.
Lynn had a recent fall at the nursing home. They had given him a suppository, and the poor bugger was trying to get to the bathroom. Broke my heart. When I suggested to the staff that perhaps they should keep an eye on patients after they give them these to help them to the bathroom, I was met with an agitated nurse who replied well, we took him about a couple of hours ago, he didn't go.
Still trying to reign in my temper ...... I said ooooook, but he didn't go! So, you need to keep checking on him, and assist him to see if he can go. He can't walk! He had to have had to go pretty damn bad to attempt to get out of bed.
To which she stupidly replied, well I can't check on him every hour...
And then, Nikki lost her cool..... and said, You WILL check him every hour, or even every half hour, OR I will shove a suppository up YOUR ass and not let you get out of bed! Lets see how you like it!?
Sometimes, you just have to tell it like it is <big grin>
Nikki....Your order of 100 cases of suppositories has just been shipped, and you should be receiving them shortly. These are the slow melting type, and they are also good to use prior to colonoscopies. There is no limit on the amount you can order, so please feel free to call in another order anytime/
I couldn't have stopped myself from saying it if I had wanted to. I have a wee bit of what my sister calls Mamma Bear Syndrome .... and man can I ROAR!!
Nancy, when Lynn was in the hospital, the nurses actually cringed when they saw me coming up to the desk. It made me feel bad, but not bad enough to not speak my mind. I am easy going and polite. I do not ask for special care for Lynn, I only ask for quality care that everyone deserves. I know how difficult being a nurse can be, but some things are just NOT acceptable. So, I ask sweetly once. I remind nicely twice. Three strikes, and the claws come out ... I think that is fair :D
That is the truth Nancy. My husband used to be the one everyone used as their advocate while being hospitalized, nursing home, etc. Now he can't even answer a question. I have had to step up and do it now. It's hard but I'm glad I can pay him back a bit for all he has done for others.