We ad to leave for three days while the house was being treated for termites. That meant taking the two cats out that never leave the house and board them. Our being out of the house was a major disruption in our routine as well - which isn't good for either one of us.
My AD husband was very good about it all - but the change in routine was very hard on him. He would help me by doing things I asked him as long as he did them immediately and didn't trust it to his memory. The ordeal was as hard on me as it was on him, but in a different way. My routine - and control - was disrupted as well. I had so many things to think of to take care of and was anxious that I had missed something. I felt like a homeless refugee - our supports and comforts were taken away from us temporarily.
I had thought about taking a "vacation" while we had to be out - but I felt that would be too much. The last vacation we took was over two years ago and it was a living Hell.
We had reservations at the guest house on the base - big suite - but filthy. They wouldn't take the dog - and I had to board him which is something I have never done. I cried myself to sleep the first night - we moved to a motel the next day where the dog could be with us and I felt better. We are back in the house and have to put food, meds, records back in place.
Halfway though the stay, my husband started telling me that the dates and times I had were wrong. I believed him --------- and went to the termite place to check on the info. I don't know why I keep "forgetting" he has AD and I just can't believe him. It is SO hard to lose my planning partner.
We all talk about how important sticking to a routine is and I sure can validate that. I am exhausted. AD just isn't fun.
gosh dagma, i can relate to that scenario. we had the bad black mold in a wall sometime ago. we had to move totally out into a apt for 3mos while renovations took place -rent furntiure for the apt! DH did not do well and i had no bolts on the doors then. always trying to escape.to go 'home'. eeeek!. my dogs had to go with us as well and it was total chaos during that time. plus i had to oversee all the renovations myself with the contractors and attys. huge ordeal and i lost it many times during those months. i am glad you got back into home and can get back to normalcy and the routines. it plays havoc on them as well as us you are darn right about that. sorry you had a difficult time. divvi
Dagma, I can't imagine! DH can't spend one night somewhere else without going into total meltdown! Hope all is well and you are back to "normal" now - whatever that is!
Animals give us such comfort. And we worry about their adjustments too. Glad you & your husband are back into your routine, all animals with you now. I thought my cat Katrina would be a nervous wreck, but she has adjusted to her new surroundings just fine. I guess they are more resiliant than we think they are, the animals, I mean.
I remember waking up one morning when we lived in Florida to a swarming of termites!!! I WAS OUTTA THERE until the carpenters and termite exterminators could take care of all that mess and make repairs!!! And at the time, everyone was in good health and took it as a vacation! I can't imagine having to go through that NOW! What an upsetting episode! Don't know if I'd survive it now! GOOD JOB!
When I lived in Florida my cousin told me the way to get rid of unwanted overnight guests was to set two suitcases by the front door. Upon the guests arrival you would tell them, "we were just getting ready to leave to go to a motel, they will be here in about an hour to begin tent fumigating our house for termites".
Termites are no joke, we have had a couple of minor infestations here in Georgia and one swarming incident in Florida. Damage was minor in all cases. Now we have the outdoor termite trappy things, they seem to work well.