I just reread my "Trying to Leave" thread from start to finish, for the 1st time. I was reminded that I made the decision to leave before the house sold. Just so you know, those of you who patiently held my hand from start to finish, the move was successful. Knowing that the movers were coming (he even helped me tie the "Do Not Park" signs a few days ago), he left & played tennis. Not at all concerned with what I would take or not take. We were pulling off as he arrived home. The only mishap was that yesterday morning, the movers called & talked to HIM, asked if he needed the big truck, & he told them no. So I had to leave behind a few boxes & one garden bench that couldn't fit on. I can go back in my station wagon & collect those few things.
Katrina has adapted well (hasn't met Felix the dog yet, he's upstairs, she's downstairs.) I think what helped was that all her familiar furnishing are here & she can smell that. She ate, drank, and used her litter box. I opened up the door next to my room where the boxes are being stored, oh boy, she thought she had landed in an amusement park. Lots of new things to jump on & explore. So my worries about her are over.
My son called this morning & asked if I were sad to leave the house. I told him no. I've gotten over it, and if all goes well, that house would no longer be there for me to live in anyhow.
I want to thank all from the bottom of my heart for your gracious support, concern, advice, and loving comments. I was amazed at all who did my hand holding, hope I didn't leave anyone out!
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Now you must take a deep cleansing breath and don't worry about anything else for the time being. Focus on regaining your strength. For the first time in a long time, it can be "all about you". You may feel a little 'let down' after a day or so, because you've been on this treadmill for months. It's to be expected. The still after the storm, so to speak. Just ride it out. I cannot imagine how it must feel to have it all behind me. Take care of yourself!
Kitty, hooray!!! I am so glad for you that you've been able to execute your plan and achieve your independence. That's wonderful. You've come such a very long way. After all you've been through, keeping peace between Katrina and the 'hua will be a piece of cake. Big, big hug.
Oh Kitty, I'm so glad everything went relatively smooth for you and Katrina! This was such a huge undertaking, I truly admire you for making a difficult decision and seeing it through. It must feel wonderful! You're an inspiration, and I hope all goes well in your new home. I'm betting that Katrina and Felix will get along well enough, and you will all co-exist in blissful harmony. Congrats, girl! You rock!!! :)
well well well! kitty got HER independence on the 4th too! good for you kitty, it has been a long road start to finish. thankfully you've made a clean break and can start to live and function again without all the headaches that were bound to surface. i am glad you and katrina have settled in and can now reap the benefits of independent living! divvi yes lots of handholding but now its handshaking!:)haha.. just for you:)
Congratulations, Kitty.. So thankful it worked out well. Independence DAYYYY for sure.. Just so glad to hear you made it outta therreee.. Wow.. Heed these wise ones in taking good care of yourself now.. breathee freeee and relaxxxx.. Sounds odd doesn't it?? hee hee..
Kitty - I have followed your journey and want you to know I have prayed for you, altho no "post"...but I'm posting now & wishing you ALL the best as you start this "new" part of your life. Take care of YOU! xoxo
Wow, I'm so glad. I haven't been here in a bit as I've been "experiencing" my respite, but have been thinking about you and your move and had to get on here to see what happened. So yippee....happy independence. I'm honored to have shared this journey with you and the team!
Terry, hope your respite was relaxing as well as getting some of the work accomplished. Thank you very much for your post.
I forgot to mention, the day before I moved, my husband sold his treasured Little Red Riding Hood sterling (childhood) bowl on Ebay for $540. He said it was worth much more than that, "but he needed the money." Glad I got my sterling out of the house, you never know.... But also relieved that he now has that $540, the $400 from his trading account he had forgotten about, and the $150 I gave him. He'll now have money to live on prior to the closing. A light bulb blew in the bedroom, and he freaked thinking the electricity had been cut off. He said he had paid the (past due) bill. I had to reassure him it was just a bulb.
I called yesterday, but he didn't pick up. Wanted to let him know I was coming to pick up the rest of the boxes. So I emailed him, asked if he wanted a hair cut when I came today (he won't get it cut, unless I cut it), and he wrote back, yes, he wanted a hair cut. So good, things are still "pleasant." And he won't look like a mad scientist when he goes to the closing. I am still amazed he didn't stay to supervise the move. I had been dreading that. Either he trusts me (and why shouldn't he?) or he just doesn't care because he'll have "all that money" when the closing goes through. Either way, it worked out well.
He's never been one to pass on anything free. So maybe the hair cuts will be my entry on keeping up with his status of well being.
((Kitty)) I am so happy to hear the move went smoothly for you! You have had such a tough hard road, we were all routing for you. How are you feeling? Everything mending, feeling stronger? So happy for you! :) ((hugs))
Nikki, so good to see you posting again! Thank you. Everything is mending, all pain is gone. I hope you are o.k. It's been a long time since we've heard from you.
Oh Nikki, so good to hear from you again. I've been away from the boards for a few days, (computer problems.) You may have given us an update on another thread but if you haven't, please do.
Thanks very much briegull. Went to pick up a garden bench today at the house. I had also left behind some serving dishes that I am fond of for buffets. Didn't realize I had left them, and my h pointed that out to me. He also found the piece of wood that the movers had chunked out of my bed. We actually laughed together, I can't remember the last time we did that. I really can't. His mood has lifted, because it looks like the closing on Wednesday is actually going through, and my mood has lifted, because I no longer have to worry about his credit problems. (Hopefully) He asked me to come back on Tues. in case he can't get all of his stuff into 4 Smart Boxes, to load up my station wagon & store for him. Sure, no problem. Peace.
Kitty, i can feel your relief and light heartedness thru the cyber waves.:) you have a happy aura...its wonderful. good for you. you may be able to do more for your hubby from a distance now without all the pressures. Divvi
Kitty, It's so good to hear you "at peace". We may have to form a cyber club to visit your resort. Can you keep the kettle hot in case I need a cup of tea (or somrthing stronger)? We are all enveying you. Hope the rest of this week goes well.
You know Kitty, this may just be the "thing" for BOTH of you. Parting on 'friendly' terms is always best ~ Hope all goes well on Tuesday! So glad for you!! Again, take care of YOU!
I love you all, too funny. Thanks one & all. Yes, I feel very peaceful, at last. And now since all is going well, may find this is a better situation for us & for me to help out when needed. At least I know he will want his haircuts, that went very well. I'll be able to check on his surroundings and status that way. Seems we are communicating better since I left. I am gratefully surprised.
Thank you Vickie & folly! Folly, I could feel your cyber hug.....<wink> I also wanted to thank Sunshyne, who, although not posting, has been watching me from afar, and was much help in the past. I send her my love & gratitude.