i have been on this site getting suggestions but never talking about him . i have read wher spouses have passed and it has helped me some i miss him so but like others have said i lost him a long time ago. it just hurts so bad . i really did not think it would bcause i know he is fine now he is with the lord and i would not want him back here in the condition he was in we were married 45 years and a part of me has died. i know it will take time i just miss him
Patty, welcome and condolences on your loss. I'm glad you found some help on this site and you are wise to come forth now so we can send you hugs and love. As you probably already know, several regular contributors have lost their spouses and they continue to share their experiences and expertise with us. I like to think we give them some comfort via our cyber friendship. Please stay and chat often. The folks here will be able to help you as you take this last part of the long journey that is dementia. Sympathies and hugs to you.
Hi & Welcome Patty, I am so sorry to hear of your husband's passing. I am sure you will find comfort from the other spouses who have lost their dear loved ones. Hugs to you, Kadee
patty, now is the time for you to take care of yourself. And remember, even if you didn't post before, you are part of our extended family now, and we care.
Also, do go up to where the sticky threads are and post on the one for the Widowed members of this board. They have all been where you are right now, and understand where you are coming from more than those of us here on this side of the journey can. They are also proof that there is life AFTER, and I think all of us need to remember that.
In the meanwhile, if you need to cry, let yourself cry. And if you need to sleep, let yourself sleep. And most of all take care of yourself. You have earned it.
Patty...Whether you post or if you just read, you are still family. I read a long time before I became a member and the people here helped me in so many ways. Continue to visit us and share some of the things you learned along the way. It will take awhile to deal with the death of your husband but you will begin to remember all the good things and the tough times will fade away. I pray that God sends you some sunshine into your life.
thank you weejun. yes it will help and also be a help to others. my heart goes out to the caregivers and their los going through this terrible disease.just need to find more to do with myself thinking about volenteer work but to soon for nursing homes or that sort of thing but do want to help others going through this
Welcome Patty. If you've been reading, you already know how helpful this place can be. Please do continue to share with us. I can't even begin to express how helpful it has been to receive such wise counsel and to see that we aren't out on this limb alone.
Patty, I am sorry to hear of your dear husband's passing. My husband died over a year ago....we were married for 40 years, so I think I know how you feel. I want to tell you to take your time and ease back into life at your own pace...Starling is right...there is life after AD....but you have to allow yourself to grab it. This disease should never be allowed to claim two victims.
Patty, Since you are relatively new to our site - you may be interested in noting that everyone who has a asterick - * - after their names have also lost their spouses. You would have a special connection to them. If you would like to...you can also add the asterick after your name...which is like the "star" shining in your heavenly crown.
Welcome to my website. I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. Although you did not write, I am glad to know that this site provided information for you when you needed it.
There is a "sticky" topic at the top of this page titled, "For AD Widows and Widowers". Those who have completed the journey share their feelings, experiences, as well as support one another. Please take a look at it. I hope it will help you.
patty, I am here to say that things will get better. It takes time, lots of time. The good memories do come back. You will find something to interest you when you are ready. Meanwhile, please give yourself permission to feel whatever you feel, to cry, to be sad. Sleep problems are normal at this point. Take care of yourself, come here for support, offer support to others. {{{{{hugs}}}}}
Dear Patty, so sorry to hear of the loss of your Husband..This web-site will help you to get your life back together again...There are some wonderful people here...with much advice and much love
You have my understanding. It's good to be here where everyone understands what you are going thru. Yes, we lose them long before they are gone, but the love never dies.
So very sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing this sad news with us. We will keep you in our prayers and thoughts. Take care of yourself and post when you feel like it and let us know how you are doing.
Hi Patty, as you have seen from looking at this sight, we are quite a group. Please accept my deepest condolences on the loss of your husband. I'm so glad you came forward to share. As we have said before, so many times, it is the "Long Goodbye". It doesn't make the final goodbye any easier though. Feel my arms reaching out to hug you. Hope to hear more from you. Susan
Dear Patty, so very sorry to hear of your dear husbands passing. many ** veterans like you now, come here and remain to offer sound handson advice for the newcomers that are on the rise here at joans. hope you will be one of them too. divvi