Comment Author Sandi CommentTime 4 hours ago My husband (age 61) died during the night last night and we, too, only provided comfort measures for him for the last few weeks. His passing has been a blessing....eleven years with AD and the last 4 years in bed in a fetal position.
Somethings in life are worse than death, and I believe Alzheimer's Disease is one of them.
Comment Author New Realm CommentTime 4 hours ago edited Oh, Sandi. My prayers are with you. Yes, I understand what it means to feel his passing is a blessing. No more suffering. Hugs for you.
Sandi, I have thought of you often in the past few weeks and although I am sorry for your loss, I am equally happy that you are free and you poor husband has found peace at last. I hope you will continue to vist this site.......your courage has been an inspiration to all of us. DickS
I have been thinking of you often since you told us of the pneumonia. Your dear husband was lost to you years ago. My wish for you, now that his suffering has ended, is that you can take care of yourself and begin to live.
Your wisdom and experience has been a help to all of us here. I thank you for that. After you have had some time to so what needs to be done for your emotional and physical health, I hope you will continue to check in with us.
My dear, you have truly honored your vows out of love and compassion. I am sure your dear husband is once again aware of your exemplary care of him all these long years. May God comfort you in your sorrow.
I want you to know I will be praying for you & your family this week. You are an inspiration to those of us that are "newbies" to this disease. Your husband is now at peace.
Sandi I too have not been on this site that long to have gotten to know you personally, but all of us know of your kindness to have put your heart and soul into the care of your loved one for so long. God bless you and your husband... I can already see the loss of our AD spouse is a double edged sword... He is in a better place, but the sorrow is still the same... Live my dear, live now for Sandi
Sandi, I am so sorry for you loss, even though he is in a better place, I know that you are suffering now. May God give you the comfort and strength now and in the days ahead. Thank you for all your support to all of us. Your story has helped me and I'm grateful to be part of this group and hope you will check back in occasionally.
My prayers are with you as you transition your life to a different drum beat. You have been an inspiration to all of us on the message board. Please try to keep in touch often.
Dear Sandi: I, too, lost my dear sweet husband, childhood sweethearts married 53 years. I know I did not want my him to leave me, but in the end it was a blessing, a relief to finally see his suffering end--and mine as well. Take time for Sandi now.
Dear Sandi, I was thinking of you this morning as I took care of Jim. Did not know of your loss until just now. I am so sorry Sandi for the final loss you are now going through but at the same time am greatful that you and your family will not suffer this disease any longer. 11 years, you have done your time. You have been a faithful wife and friend to your husband.
Sandi I too am new here, but I'm so sorry for your lose. Your husband is in the hands of God now no more suffering Take care of yourself now. GOD BLESS
Sandi, I am sorry to hear about your husband, but I know how well it is a blessing. The finality of it sometimes hurts. May you find peace and yourself now. I am still with one of my sisters, I will return home next week to pick up the pieces at home. My sisters have been a big help. I even pick up the rug hooking again while I am here. Great big hug and remember the good times. barbarakay
Thank you all so much for all your kind thoughts. The funeral service was wonderful and lots of friends and family joined us to give my husband a wonderful send off.
I am doing very well....the peace and happiness that I feel for the end of his suffering is so healing. And, what a perfect day for a burial....the first day of spring...the sun was shining, the birds were singing and the light was sparkling on the water of the lake at the cemetery.
I will be sticking around......you can't get rid of me that easily....LOL!
Sandi, how appropriate that both your husband and you began a new journey on the day that promises a new beginning. We will all be in your place some day. You have stepped out ahead of us and have been kind enough to glance back to give us all a view of the road ahead. This disease causes such mixed feelings at the end. Thank you and we are glad you are sticking around for a while. We will need your advice.
Thank you again. Comforting thoughts and hugs are sent your way. Happy new journey.