here it is 3 in the morning, feeling bad cause I didn`t stay the night with dh in the hospital I sat here for a long time just staring at my computer, tried to play games just infurated me, came on here to see if anyone was on but you all must be getting a good nights sleep, haven`t had any calls so no news is good news right, all the kids and there spouses were with me at the hospital most of the day and night until he stableized, I never did go back tonight, wanted to but it got very fogy here and couldn`t see to well out there so didn`t ask anyone to bring me,i don`t own a car so have to reley on kids for everything, just hate that.has anyone else had any lo have there bp go so low 40/38, I must admit he looked so peaceful ,when he started to come out of it he was very adjetated, trying to get out of the bed with iv tube in him and a catheater,getting mad at the dougie housier dr. so young, but he sure laid it on the line what might happen, if he pulls through this we as a family have to decide what we should do if it happens again, is there a cut of time when enough fluids won`t work anymore? This happened to him on mothers day and here it is going to be fathers day wow so weird, thanks for letting me vent my fears and frustration, I will try to sleep now.
marygall I just came on. 5:30 here in WV. Now you just stop feeling guilty about coming home and staying home this evening. You need to keep strong for him and there is not a thing you can do for him. He is in a caring hospital with Doctors and Nurses keeping a watchful eye on him. Take a anxiety pill if you haven't already, breath deep and KNOW you are helping him more by staying home for some rest than being uncomfortable at the hospital. Been there, done that. Vent to me , if you need to or my e-mail is in my profile. Blessings.
imohr, thanks for your comfort words, just called the hospital, he is doing much better, bp is up and he is very active, has no fluids going but keeping an eye on him to make sure bp doesn`t drop again, I did get a coupe hrs. of sleep, now going to take a shower,go visit dh and then have dinner with family, hopefully all will be well. they did say yesterday his liver enzimes were eleveded, didn`t think to ask what that meant.I was in a fog yesterday, they keep asking me if I had questions but you know when your loved one may be dying it`s hard to think. For some reasons your words always comfort me thanks again.
marygail so sorry your nite was not easy. sometimes the BP can drop due to dehydration issues which become quite common with AD. with metabolic issues beginning to be severely affected by the disease it can be touch/go at times with this BP issue. 40/38 is a critical point. any lower than that and i would think the body is definately shutting down. its good it came back up in the nick of time. he is better now you need to get some needed rest during the day =hugs, divvi
Marygail, do not feel guilty for not staying all night. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to do the right thing, like getting your rest so you can be there later. Being a zombie is no value to anyone, but if you are bright and alert when he sees you, then that will surely help. Big hugs to you, and stay strong.
I'm glad to hear things are going better. Sorry you had a bad night. It had to be hard to stay away, but you do need as much sleep as you can get. People who know me would laugh to hear me say it, but guilt really doesn't help anyone.
MaryGail, when the liver enzymes are elevated, that is usually an indication that the liver is inflammed but doesn't always mean that it is failing. When we have problems with one organ, there is usually a domino effect, most often affecting the kidneys and liver. I, too, am glad you stayed home last night. Sitting up in a hospital is exhausting and freezing cold at night. At least you were in 'your own chair'. Even if you were unable to sleep soundly, I am sure you rested more than you would have there As everyone else said, he is in good hands and they were watching him closely, I'm sure.
MaryGail, I'm glad Lois was here for you during the night. As all here have said, you should feel no guilt, and I'm so glad he is improving. You have to take care of yourself, in order to take care of him. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
thanks everyone for your thoughts, dh is now having high bp, doc said he woud rather that then where he was a day ago, he said some young people with the bp he had would have done them in but for some reason dh is a fighter and just keeping an eye on him tonight since his bp was low at four this morning,saw him today was not corporating with any of us today, wanted to go home, not sure if he meant our home or nh, hope he is doing better tomorrow, will keep you posted.