You got some good answers to your question, but then some of us got side-tracked. I decided to put the question up again to see if there were more answers.
Janet
Janeie asked:
okay we all have those moments, or hours...days where our spouses are just out there, don't know where or who or why and are crying or almost abusive so how or what do you do , or tell yourself to get thru it , how do you get your mojo back??
in answer to this, 'crying and almost abusive' at any time , would send me to the drs office asap for medication adjustments- it means they are in a state of anxiety and its not good for them OR the one on the receiving end. (you) = as far as mojo, it would be nice if it never left, but like everyone else depressive periods strike without notice. find something that gives you pleasure and makes you smile. and remember that a positive force of good mojo energy can be felt by every living creature/person around you. you not only do yourself a service by a healthy attitude but those around you. divvi
Pharmcology is our friend. Never forget that. We need them medicated when they get to crying and abusive and extremely agitated. It is better for them and better for us. When they are happy, we can have our mojo back! Flexibility is our new goal.
Divvi's point about adjusting medication doses is a very important point. If medications are taken over an extended period of time some of them can get to point where more medication is required to do the same job. This is especially true with medications such as Seroquel and Abilify, the same may be true of Risperdal. Some Neurologists will give you some latitude and permission to increase the dosage of some of these medications. If they are having a bad day you will be able to give your ADLO a little extra, it's surprising how much difference a little extra Seroquel can make.
Don't forget about yourself, Lexapro has been a wonderful drug for me, it helps me keep a positive attitude. If you are not already taking an anti-depressant, ask your PCP about prescribing something for you. It can make a lot of difference.
Doneit....I guess I have "mojo", but no one to hit with it!!! ('cause I still think about stuff). Everyone here has offered good advice....Meds ARE our friends, for US and our lo's. John's doctor has allowed me to adjust his dosage of Seraquel from day to day as needed. It has been helpful, so far as I can see. My two cents.