i posted this other day (but coulnd't find it) that DH had taken it upon himself to move all the furniture on the portch, in order to paint. Now the portch is painted, but the he decided to go over it in the rain, so that part is all white. In addition, he decided to plaster the top of the railing, so that also needs paint. The furniture didn't need to be moved for that either. I just went to bed and all I could think of is that I'm going to be the one to correct his portch work, and also to put the porch funiture back, and this is what the third time... I couldn't sleep, I was in ped and couldn't sleep because i was so annoyed about it. He moved all this stuff and then went to bed. We had had an up and down day as it was, I insisted that he wash before going to the baseball game (grandson's) so that brought on a temper tantrum. then he was annoyed he didn't bring anything to keep himself busy at the game. Then he was annoyed that I stopped to buy some stuff on the way, and then I GOT mad when I saw what he had done to the deck, with alll the furniture and plants moved. I needed to vent a little before trying sleep again. By
Chris r. Sounds like my day.......I started to clean out my winter clothes by pulling all out of the drawer and refolding to put back in what I wanted and put away winter things and H thought I was leaving him so he started pulling out all the drawers in the bedroom and taking apart the wardrobe so the men could come pick it up when he moves back to California??????? Every few minutes he asked me if this was mine or his as he knew we would have to split up everything. I got a lorazepam and gave him a whole one which he knocked back without a question and once it took effect and he got distracted by other things, I had to put everything back in the bedroom. AAAAARRRRGGGHHHH! Regular household work is one thing, but all this unnecessary added stuff is just bull@#&%.
Here I am, listening to all of your stories. Then, I see my dh. Just wants to lie there. Has no ambitions. Nothing interests him. Incontinent, battling all the time. He's in the hospital at the moment....hope they can give him a "magic bullet" to get him moving. I'd LOVE to see him move a piece of furniture, pick a flower, dig a hole. Or, just be interested in his surroundings.
Stunt girl, I must tell you that my DH is usually just like you described. In fact, today, I went out and finished the deck (painting) because he was too tired. then I moved everything back. he got up, finally, looked at the deck, I was expecting him to find all the things I didn't do right, so then I put on a Fred astaire movie (THFF) Thank God for Fred)... and he's happily drinking some juice and watching Fred. Laughing alound and talking to the set. so I got a moment to look at the site. he's calling me now, he thinks I should be watching the movie with him.... give me a break.
My DH eats, sleeps and watches tv. Still showers daily (with shower chair; and even that is gettting slower) No energy, no ambition, balance/dizziness also. The lack of motivation, and initiation are part of the disease. DH no longer does a load of laundry or empty the dishwasher and those were about the only things he was doing most recently. Stuntgirl, your DH will probably not start "doing things". The initiative is gone, there are too many steps to complete and everything is just too confusing.
I thought I remembered this thread. In the last few days, my husband has started moving the furniture around. The best I can tell he thinks he's "helping" by straightening up. We have a glass sunroom, and he's spent most of the days this summer in there. Now he seems to think that the sunroom is actually outdoors, that we have to bring everything in it into the house. He also likes hiding the newspapers under cushions, putting things inside a trunk or ottoman, I still haven't found some coasters.
Oh--in case anyone has wondered--you can freeze sushi. When I wasn't looking he put the sushi in the freezer, I thawed it out and ate it--was fine. I think Divvi's description "hooligan" is starting to apply here.
My DH pushes the 4 dining room chairs (with castors) all over the house. No use fighting him on it. I just let him move them where ever he wants from room to room. I just go push them back at meal time. Now he is starting it with the bar stools and dinette chairs. I got him a walker thinking it would help. Oh, he pushes it around once in a while but for some reason he prefers pushing the chairs. Sometimes it's like an obstacle course to walk through the house.
I just discovered this thread. My husband did he same thing and I thought it was just a HIM thing. Our dining room chairs were not on casters and he still managed to push or pull them all around the house. I used to call home to check on him before he went into placement and the in-home aide was with him. Most days when I asked how he was doing she would tell me that "he is dancing with the chairs".