My darling sister in law died on the 6th April. It has taken me until now to come back to Joan's site as we were so close she was my rock when I was upset over Hubby I could ring her at anytime. Her & her husband came to stay with us for 6 weeks at a time many times since my Hubby has been ill with us taken them home a 6 hour drive from our house & staying with them for 2 weeks. When I read things on Alzheimer Spouse it was s.i.l. I told. Her death has left a big hole in my life as we also chatted on msn nearly every night did jigsaws & mahjong games together then every Saturday & Sunday we would talk for hours putting the world to right. She died a week after her 67th birthday was diagnosed with a small bit of lung cancer on 10th Feb it was a rare type that was very aggressive moved quickly to her windpipe & bone marrow & although she had treatment died just within 2mths. As they live in a small town she had to go to a hospital 4 hours away for treatment so Hubby & I stayed with her husband for over 3 weeks visiting her every day & spending most of the day with her.Then when she moved back to her home town we went home for a week so Hubby could go to daycare we then went & stayed another 3 weeks at their home. I'm glad my Hubby was there he got to know she was ill & knows she has died he was also a pallbearer at her furneral. Now I have got myself together enough to write this I must now catchup with what has been happening with Joan since 13th Feb. Hubby is in respite at the moment & not behaving very well I was rung yesterday to say he had gone out walking to the police station the voices in his head were back & going to kill him luckly a woman he use to work with saw him & drove him back. Never rains but it pours eh!
I am so sorry for your loss Patricia. It sounds as if your SIL held your heart safely and lovingly in her own. I prayer that you will find peace and continue to feel her love for always. Sue
My sister in law and soul mate died last month and I still reach out to the phone to call her. Her cell number is still in my cell phone directory and I see it every day. She was the MAIN support in my life, too,Patricia...and I miss her so much. I truly understand how much of a loss you have suffered. Now..I wonder if there will ever be another person I feel as close to. She also was "on my side" constantly,..she was the only sister my husband had. I miss her so much. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Patricia and Nancy - there are never enough words to express how sorry I am for both of your losses not only the person but all they meant to you and the support in your lives. ((Hugs))
Thankyou all so much for your kind words & prayers. Nancy I am so sorry to hear you have also lost your sister in law, I am thinking of you & know just how you are feeling. Like you my sister in law was my husband's only sister she would ring him every afternoon while he was in respite care & he is missing those calls now while he is in respite as he is ringing our family. Also like you I have her still in my cell phone & in my address book on the computer I just can't delete them. Having a Father of 95 & a Mother of 90yrs it was not my sister in law I thought I would lose this year. Like you I am missing her very much.
Patricia and Nancy, sooooo soooorry for your losses. It is quit profound how much this hole in our heart affercts us. Lost my dh only sister in 1997 to breast cancer. He was so close to her and we were best friends as well. It has been nearly 12 years and I can remember the empyiness I felt for years. She too was my confidant. We used to play penny poker at my house once a week. Everyone just left their "loot" there when they left. When she became seriously ill and hospice was called in, we stopped playing. To this day, I still have her "loot" in my cupboard. I cannot empty it. I guess it is my "memorial" to her because everytime I see it, I think of what a wonderful person she was. You are both in my prayers.