just got back from dinner,an LO used spoon for fork,when I asked if she found the spoon more useful than the fork she got pissed an said she would use her knife if it held more lol this ain't gonna be fun
My DH doesn't seem to know what to do with the silverware if he has more than one. I have learned to give him either a spoon or fork and remove all other silverware. He also eats his sandwich and baby carrots with a fork. Mostly I say nothing to him. I'm learning to pick my battles. Expect more strange behavior. :-)
Today, while eating at a local Restaurant dh told me he didn't want to go back. And he meant any Restaurant because he felt all fidgety, nervous and uptight. I can understand because he has trouble getting out of his chair and also with eating. He can eat a thin sandwich but not one with several condiments. He has some trouble with his silverware and getting the food to his mouth. Really can manage ok but it is embarrassing to him. I said, I know, but I like to eat out. I tried to stress this because if he didn't go out to eat he would not be mingling with any one but me and also I need the social outlet. He does not want me to go without him so for my own well being we will continue to go in to the Restaurant for the present.
Jim has also lost all interest in going out. He will occasionally agree to go to a church breakfast or just out to breakfast. Sometimes out for chinese, but that's about it.
Clyde seems to have lost interest in eating out also, partly, I think because he is embarrassed when I have to cut up his food and partly because of the noise. And I think the table is "too busy". Too many condiments, etc. We have started doing take-out more often and he seems good with that.
Our sr group at church meets once a month at a restaurant for lunch. It is generally well attended. For the last several months, DH has just sat there. I order for him and if it's a buffet, I fix his plate for him. He does not respond to anyone. Last Thursday we were scheduleld to go to a restaurant and he got very belligerant and said he wasn't going and I couldn't make him go. So, I called and cancelled.
He likes to play cards each week with these folks but says he doesn't want to eat lunch with them. I guess this is part of the disease.
the very lite weight 'gold violin' series wheel chair is what i have for this purpose of going to restaurants etc. you can just wheel it to the table and let them eat and not have them walk/move into chairs/ its awesome- i highly recommend it. i got mine off QVC the shopping channel. i think 180dol or such. best investment i made, i also use for dr appt. its easier on me and him and we get where we are going fast! divvi
When we go out to eat, DH always orders a Reuben. If that is not available, I have to recommend to him something that he will like. When we went to Subway recently, he got very confused and could not remember what he always had ordered in the past.
When it is just the two of us my DH doesn't do too bad in restaurants but if we are with a group in nearly any setting he will hardly eat at all. I think he is embarrassed because of the help I need to give him, and the confusion of the crowd definitely is a big drawback for eating. He also feels that people are watching him and "judging" him.
We just returned from a cruise. I'm so glad I requested a table for two. DH would try to cut things with a spoon or butter his bread with a fork. I finally started doing it all for him. I think that was our last vacation together. It was just too stressful for me.
Last Friday we had a fellow here at the house and I asked him to stay for lunch. While we were eating I noticed DH just ate--no eye contact, no conversation. The guest kept glancing at h im. This man had been here several times before.
I walked him out to his car and asked him if he thought my husband had declined. He said he thought he had. He said it was very sad but inhis business (he's a minister) he has seen quite a bit of AD and thinks DH is failing.
I certainly wasn't surprised--but I was pretty disappointed about it. I was really hoping he'd stay the same and I'd be able to continue caring for him forever. We'll see.
Wow! If I can find someone to stay with DH, we can all go. To answer one of the questions, we went to St. Martin, San Juan and Labadee (Royal Caribbean's private island) Phranque, if you're going to behave and act normal, it won't be any fun!