Yesterday, dh was mumbling, as usual and the TV was on and I told him a couple of times I couldn't hear him because he had his head down and eyes shut, as usual. He suddenly erupted with "Someday I am going to knock the s..t out of you."!!!!Completely floored me. He said it low also, because his voice is low now. I asked him 3 o4 4 times "What did you say?------but he wouldn't repeat it or say anything more. He has never raised a hand to me but something like that does strike a note of fear in a person.
I am still angry about it and I know he knows what he said because he is tip-toing around yet today, so today it is relatively quiet around this household.
imohr, sorry - sometimes they do get aggitated and can say hurtful things. having said it, i think you should stay cautious just the same and be attentive to any further outbursts. lets hope its just verbal and doesnt happen again. and yes it does strike a cord of fear esp from someone who normally doesnt do it.divvi
We've just spent one very subdued and quiet week and a half now. DH uproared in the wrong direction and the result wasn't what he expected. Now, I don't know if he even remembers what he did, BUT it surely does make us all THINK and be on our toes. He's been quiet ,withdrawn and hasn't been on a tear to get anything fixed.. I think of scenarios when I will have to walk out...and to be threatened is one of them. DH is unpredictably hostile, but never physical (yet).. so we've walked on eggs for longer than this disease unfortunately.. I have a walk out plan..but very little else in place. The seething under the surface anger is scarey to me as well.. I'm really sorry, Imohr.
Imohr and Judy, Please Please, call your local law enforcement agency, Speak to someone who can take your report and let them know what the situation is at your house. They need to be able to tell the dispatcher if they receive a call your number(911 address) what the deal is. Also you need to confirm your 911 address with them while you are speaking to them. A walk out plan is fine but only IF you can WALK out.
Lois, Yes, do be very careful and vigilant. The violence, if and when it happens can occur so quickly you might not have time to even realize it will happen. And I agree, let the local police know. And, once they know, they will be more ready to respond if anything else happens (wandering, for instance. My prayers are with you.
Susan, I have not because issues have been minor and only about twice in the last 3 years. At this point I don't want to put him on more beds until he needs them. When he does get more verbal I definetly will. Almost all the time he is calm and condescending.