Saw dh today. Still not really responsive and I tried to talk to him about Memorial Day and how important a day this is. He is a vet so it is especially important for me to tell him how I feel. I am so proud of the man he was and these days, I cannot find much pleasure to focus on. My 2 sisters talked me into going to listen to a band play last night but I could not concentrate on anything. I saw a couple dancing and all I could think about was the last time we had danced. Each song reminded me of a memory of him. All I wanted to do was go see him and hug him even if he can not hug back. Last Tues he was walking and eating and talking and responding. Since Thurs, he must have had some sort of a stroke and now the most he can do is mumble. I sat with him alone today for 6 1/2 hrs. I just watched him as he tried over and over to reposition himself (bad back and all this laying down has exacerbated it). I will be speaking with the psychiatrist at the nh tomorrow. I do not know who he/she is. I need to know dh prognosis. I feel numb and don't even want to think. I hope everyone out there had a wonderful, memorable day and I am going to call it an early night.
Sorry you had such a difficult day, Kathryn. The only thing good about it for me was the weather was very nice, and I spent a good amount of time here at this site. Didn't somebody at the NH see the change in him and call a Dr.?? I hope you have a better day tomorrow and get the info you need. (((HUG))).
Went to visit DW at the NF yesterday afternoon, she seems to adapting to her new surroundings very well. She has already made some some new friends there, one is a gentleman, she introduced him to me. He assured me she was behaving and I should be proud of her. He asked her to go to the coffee hour with him and she turned him down.
Otherwise I had a very relaxing weekend, the best I've had in many months. The "Kick Back & Chill Out" party worked very well, we made it last all weekend. :-)
Thank you Jean, I have planned a weekend trip up to the N. Georgia mountains the weekend after next. It's been so long since I have done anything like this, I may have forgotten how to act or what to do.
Kathyrn, I am so sorry that he is not comfortable and therefore you cannot relax and find some peace. Jimmy, I am so glad that your DW has settled in. Go to the mountains and enjoy the peace and solitude.
Kathy - I am so sorry that he is doing poorly after the effort you put in to get him moved to a better place. Even if he isn't responding to you, your being with him does comfort him. I truly believe on some level that they do know and understand that we are with them. ((hugs))
Thanks everyone. Went to visit today and he was a little better. Cleaned and dressed in a special wheelchair. Responded to my questions-although garbled speech. Spoke to the social worker and she said the psychiatrist would see him today. Asked he to check to see if he was on his lexapro. Showed her my schedule of meds he was on before entering nh. She made a copy and I got a call from the nurse a few minutes ago indicating the psych is putting him back on lexapro and they were going to grind his meals for a while because of the change in speech. I told her he ate fine for me-drank well too. I said I would speak to the speech therapist to get more info. At least he seemed a little better today. I felt better leaving him to do some legal work for Dad. This place (so far) is so good. I am so pleased with all the workers. It truly feels like a close family all working towards the same goal- the good of the patient and family.