Happy 49th, Starling. It hurts but to whom to you complain and tell how much your feelings are hurt? Right here. We all know exactly how it feels--crummy.
Happy 49th! You are so lucky to have had such a long life together. I hope most of them have been good. I met Jim on March 29th 2003 and married him on November 29th 2003. He was dx'd in March of 2009, but had not been well long before then. I began to notice changes by our 1st Anniversary.
shoegirl, we had good years and bad ones. We moved around the country a lot because every time he needed a new job the only way to get one was to move to a new city. It is rare to have two contact lens companies in the same city, and we did live in Rochester, NY twice as a result. <grin>
It has been a long marriage, and they said it would never last because we had nothing in common. Which was true by the way. <grin>