For the last little while B. thinks we have several homes. He wants to know which home we are going to, if I'm going to pick him up at the pink house (that was a new one tonight), how did he get here in this house, etc. I'm not really sure how to answer. I usually tell him we just have the one house. But he is really wanting to sort things out in his mind. I used to joke that I have a hard enough time taking care of the one house, that he doesn't need to be adding more for me to take care of. He doesn't really think that is funny any more.(I do) What could I say to make this a little less stressful on both of us?
Maybe you could link his houses to Seasons or events. We don't go there until Easter. Or that's our winter home. Always some time other than now. Maybe?
Would it work to say you are in the pink house but it has been painted now? Maybe you could say that the pink house has been rented or that a family member is staying in it.
i would let him have as many houses as he wants:) and i'd say we can go to any of them he likes. as we know 'home' has many connotations in AD, so whatever calms him down, its more confusing to the caregiver to not try to correct it. divvi
You've heard us say that you have to live in their world. Soooo, aren't you thrilled that you have so many homes? LOL
Seriously, I agree with carosi. Whatever house he is asking about - that's our summer home. This is winter, so we're in our winter home. And vice versa. That's our vacation home. We'll go there on vacation. Hopefully, that will satisfy him enough, and then he'll forget.
Worth a try about the houses. My Mom, in her last months, kept wanting to go home and nothing I could say would register with her. It was just like talking to the wall. She thought the house we are living in was somebody elses and we needed to get out of it. She would tell me she was "ready to go".