I can't get anywhere. When John was released from the hospital, he was taken to another nursing home, not his original, and it took me forever to find him. We talk every day, most of the time it is very pleasant and he pleads for me to make it possible for him to come home or at least be placed close to me. However, I am denied access to any information from his healthcare providers or staff that take care of him. Puzzled, I have been calling his sister (previously had poa, etc) to have them put me on the allowed list. Not one call back in response. I talked to social services at the nursing home and I found out the his daughter in CALIFORNIA has his POA and is his healthcare surrogate. That is the WORST thing that could have happened. That is the one child of his that is absolutely venomous toward me. She has blocked me from her telephone, website and e-mail. I have just sent my lawyer an e-mail asking him to revoke her POA and begin actions to establish me as his Guardian. To hell with waiting for what the judge wants to say about the divorce proceedings that neither of us wants! I WANT MY HUSBAND BACK HOME!! I am terrified. If something bad happens to John, I will certainly be the last to know. The nursing home won't even put my name and telephone number on record. I was told that the family really doesn't want me calling, but they can't stop that legally. My family is really screwed up. How can anyone be that evil? Why is my getting POA back such a difficult issue?
So sorry to see you suffer with such family dysfunction where you can't even get any information about your DH. Makes me wish I were an attorney so I could advise you. Or a private detective so I could help you get the info you want. For what its worth, here's a cyber-hug ((((((HUG)))))). Hang in there.
Thanks, TxJoe.....I think I've done something that will help today. I talked to my lawyer that is representing me in the divorce issue. He can't help me with these other issues. So, I decided to make an appointment with an Elder Law attorney that I've used before. Didn't want to spend more money on lawyers, understand, but now, I think I have to. I am persuing the revocation of her power of attorney, and want guardianship and conservatorship. More weeks John is going to have to stay where he is, though. He is so dissappointed that I can't seem to do anything about our situation. And thanks for the hug. I need hugs. If someone really were to hug me I think my return embrace would hurt them!!!