dh has been doing bad, nh called ,dr. had lab work done on him to see if he was getting bad because of an infection or something else, couldn`t find anything, they say the alz. is getting worse, doesn`t want to wake up,won`t eat well, he never walks any more, has to have two people walk along side of him, is always falling, went to see him today after they called, took me almost 40 mins. to get him to sit up, by that time i had to leave cause daughter-in-law had to get home for kids after school. he did know who i was though, and of course cried a bit.i was trying to stay away for awhile but had to go and see for myself how he was, just wanted to cradle him in my arms and make it better, when he is sleeping or half asleep he is making these awful faces, maybe he is awake i don`t know. the dr. says it is progressing fast, scares the bajebbies out of me. thanks for letting me vent, no one else to talk to right now, children are all working.
Oh, hugs, my dear, they say it often goes fast when they're in the nh - but not because they were put there, because we wait until we are absolutely convinced it has to happen. That's what happened with you.
I have empty couches and chairs here....plenty of time on my hands. Glass of wine or cup of coffee. Maybe just sitting in the dirt in the garden, weeding and listening to each other pour our hearts out. That's what I'd offer if anyone here were near me. Wish I could be closer to each one of you. You are such encouragement for me.
Marygail, I wish you love and patience. It has to be hard on you. My hubby is still at home and hasn't had to go to hospital or nh yet, but I see it coming. If anyone in or around Detroit, Mi heeds help gettingt out to see their spouse I'd be glad to help. I just cannot believe this horrid disease does this much to us, proof positive that is a couple's disease. I am angry at this thing and confused by it but that won't stop me from doing all I can to fight it. But it is unfair to my hubby and me and also to our daughter, and my precious daughter is what keeps me going and gives me the strength to do it. Bless you all, Shadowbaby.
Marygail, my thoughts and prayers have been with you since before you placed him. Having someone else take care of our spouses (spice) has to be the hardest thing other than our losing them to this insidious disease. NO ONE can take care of them the way we want them taken care of but us! They are going to continue to decline despite our best efforts, and it is going to be horrible to watch and the knowledge that we can't stop it is devastating.
You are doing all you can do at this point....hold him for a while and let him feel your love.