Mother Day is coming up next Sunday. Here is a "cyber boquet of roses" for all the Mothers and Wives out there. I tell my kids not to buy me anything because I am trying to do away with a lot of cute dust catchers, but they will invaribly present me with something. I am planning on buying myself a pretty boquet and tell DH they are from him. I love boquets but he was never a flower person.
Imohr, thank you. I had almost forgotten that monther's day is here. I do a similar thing at Christmas. I buy myself a present or two, wrap them and tell DH they are from him. It makes him happy that he "remembered" to buy me a gift. even tho he doesn't remember "remembering".
We don't have children together; however, my son will always send me flowers; his son and wife will probably send flowers. DH usually will get me a card - if he remembers when we are at a store.
My 91 yr. old Mom is in a NH in FL. She has my sister and grandchildren there so they will get flowers I know. So, I ordered her a gift box of my M&M's with pictures of our dog and my sister's dog on them, with message on other side. They are so neat! She'll love them. May order some for DH for father's day.
My kids have rarely ever gotten me anything or done anything for Mother's Day. When they were teenagers I tried to get them to do a Volkswalk with me. My son had a fit! It was a miserable walk. Since then I just try to avoid the day. I don't even go to church on Mother's Day cause the pastors seem to always need to talk about the wonders of pregnancy and birth and having that little baby. I was never able to get pregnant so it depresses me although not as much as it use to. Our kids were 1 and 2 when we adopted them. I do believe in the miracle of birth and years ago when working in the hospitals would go watch deliveries when I could. It took my third grandchild before I could get past my own pain of infertility and enjoy them - until then I would shy away until they were 6 months old.
I always sent my mom and Mil cards even though we didn't get along. I believed in the scripture to 'honor your parents'.
I do cards for my Mom, usually a couple a couple days apart. Also give a call. She's local now, but with transpo issues , inaccessibility at her place and doing Dh, just isn't possible to get together. As far as gifts, we do them for Christmas. My Daughter and son-in-law have usually given me a gift card to Amazon. That's hgow she got me onto the internet. At first I was only e-mailing. I had to go on to get my gift.(She's created a small monster). This year, if all goes well, I'm getting socks. There's a site with diabetic socks that work well with my edema issues and braces. They're not cheap, and I need them.
My mother's day gift this year will be my son graduating from college--he's only going to the graduation for my sake. My husband has been doing pretty good with some new meds and his looking forward to our son's graduation. Then we will go to my parents' house for dinner. My daughter usually gets me something nice but my husband as never gotten me a mother's day gift---always told me I wasn't his mother :)
Before my DH got sick he would spoil me with flowers, sometimes dinner out, and always some kind of a knick knack for my curio cabinet, or costume jewelry he'd order from Limoge~s (ugh! but I'd wear it so as to not hurt his feelings. LOL). He'd also have each of the kids give me individual cards. I was spoiled when it came to holidays. But that all stopped a couple years ago as DH's AD progressed. This year my eldest is deployed without much notice (and he may not be home before the baby is born). I imagine his wife will send a card from their family (son, dil, granddaughter, and a second granddaughter due in July). I think DIL may come down from Mukilteo with granddaughter and their dog (that would be Kali, my icon. Son and dil gave me a "granddog" before deciding to start their "Human" family). My two kids who are still at home, 17 and 18...well, I just don't know for sure what they might do. They always took cues from their Dad. Now that he is gone I'm just not sure what they may think of. My younger son made me breakfast last year, so I would suppose he might do the same this year. Perhaps we will all go to church. I am betting too, that my sister(s) will call or send me a card just because..... We always try to make up for each other something that might be "missing" in each others lives. My SIL, my brothers widow we used to give cards to on Father's day. My brother died when the kids were 18 months and 3 years, and she never did remarry. She did a beautiful job though being both Mother and Father to his kids. He died in '93 and we are all still very close to her. Matter of fact she sold DH and I this house she and my brother built.
Happy Mothers Day to all the mothers on the board, and to all the caregivers of LO's who are at the stage where they are acting more like children than life's partners. According to my minister, today is called Mothering Day in England - this is so much more inclusive a name than Mother's Day.
For anyone who has trouble celebrating mothers because of painful memories, this poem might be helpful: http://johnshore.com/2013/05/11/mothers-day-raised-too-alone/
Last year on Mother's Day, I sat in the NH watching my husband die. I didn't realize at the time, that the end was so close. I sat holding his hand and weeping. He died the next morning. My children have all called today. None live near. They hope I have a happy day. I said I would. I think some wine and a Valerian will help later on.
Ocallie36 and others that are feeling pain today, I am sorry that this day gives you grief. {{{Hugs}}} I realized this morning when I was sitting in church that I am mourning my mother today, who died several years ago. She was the sole caregiver for my father, who has LBD and is now in a NH. She did not share what she was dealing with, with anyone, including the family, and I believe the stress she was under ultimately killed her.
bqd, Thank you. It's funny, my Mother has been gone for 30 years. I still miss her so much. She died too young. I guess this is just a weepy day for me. Haven't had the wine yet. Did take the Valerian.
Happy Mothers Day to each of you in whatever circumstances you are in at this time.
I would like to add to what you have already written that when I lost my DW in March, it was terribly hard on me, but, it was also hard on our two children and I didn't realize it. At least not enough. Since I cared for their Mother day and night, I had a tendency to think of MY loss and I regret it. I have since understood there feelings and everything is good now.
Anyhow, this is their first Mothers Day without a mother in their whole lives, and it is hard on them. I went to Church with both of them this AM and that was good also. We are going to her gravesite later this afternoon.
Hubby went out and got me flowers. I was very pleased but shocked because I didn't think he was able to still do that. Last year no way. Of course he was at the store to check his lottery tickets and saw the flowers and put it together, I think with some help from the clerk (small corner store and they know about his disease and are very kind to him). Still I'm happy to get them.