My ADLO has been displaying a new behavior since being on Axona. She is on day 6 of Axona samples from her Neuro. I have and am documenting written improvement in her. She has improved by being more cognitive, and her new diet has helped too. More seeds and nuts and less processed foods have improved her energy.
The new behavior is that she says: "And this and this and this and this and this" while she is doing her ADL like folding a coat etc... It drive me nuts and tonight I told her, "Can you say something other than "and this?" I am going to nickname you This!" Thank God for music and earplugs! I will try to redirect, but maybe this is an improvement over saying nothing. She is 66 and still wearing pantyhose and loves to shop for her Macy's cosmetics and Clinique. I am lucky Axona came out when it did. I was tired of measring out oils! Also, I am seeing if I can get Axona in TJ Mexico for cheaper, since we live 5 miles from the San Diego Border. A lot of people go down there for RXes. There are Pharmacias next to the border customs, and that area is very safe. Any advice is appreciated while we journey through the New Axona Phase. Also, she has had tummy ache in Am so she says after taking Axona, 1 dan active yogurt (Costco) helps instantly.
Sprite: My AD wife also repeats words and simple phrases over and over. I assume it's because her expressive language is so badly damaged that it's all she can do and wants to say something. You're right, it is unnerving. When we are traveling in the car DW will read aloud almost every billboard. I think it may be to reassure herself that she can still read, although she does not comprehend what the billboard is about and will sometimes add, "I wonder what that means." I've noticed she is increasingly having difficulty pronouncing common words.
We listen to music and I sing while in the car. My ADLO loves a band called No Doubt that is very good with slow songs and fast songs. At home we watch various movies, I think it is a phase and I am hoping next will be a step up due to the Axona. Today my ADLO want to shop for pantyhose. It is my day off of work, so I will spend the day with her out and about. Any ideas for redirecting would be great, and I am grateful she is doing so well. But I always like to strive for improvement...
sprite there was a very long thread on pantyhose which some men asked questions about and many ladies here answered to. you may find it interesting. maybe we can find it! divvi
Pantyhose??? Use them only if you intend on robbing a bank or 7 11 store, or use them to polish your shoes...otherwise, read the label on the...it says "do not attempt this at home"...you will never get them on straight....although I must say, it can be a bit erotic......
That was me, herenow I mean. I just wanted answers about pantyhose... ok care giver to my mom. I've come clean, I hope I can stick around here. Even if I'm not a spouse. I promise to stay out of the intimate threads, I don't need em anyways!
She forgot about buying more of the pantyhose and I did too, but will do it tomorrow, maybe. We are having a heat wave here in San Diego, Ca and I have not idea how she can wear winter clothes and pantyhose in this heat.
We get the Axona tomorrow, today I am giving her coconut oil and mct oil.
Curious to see if Axona is being sold in Tijuana...I have coworkers looking into it as they live over there.
I'd suggest you not get any pantyhose. If she insists, get her thigh-highs or knee highs. The panty hose are an instrument of torture. You'll NEVER get them on straight and if they aren't straight, I'm here to tell you they are miserable to wear.
I wouldn't talk about it. I'd just get the thigh-high hose or knee high and tell her they were out of the pantyhose if she asks. You will get forgiveness a lot quicker than you'll get permission. :) Good luck.
I use knee-highs on my wife even when she is wearing a skirt. The top of them shows, but it is not objectionable. I prefer to have her in a skirt because it makes it easier to change her Depend when she soils it.
I know she is miserable in her pantyhose, but it is like a control thing. She refuses to give them up. She already has knee highs and we have had that conversation many times already. I do see her pulling at the pantyhose but what do I do? Very stubborn lady and if she does not have all her hoarded things she is one miserable person. Kleenex, tp, paper towels, ponds wipes macys make up pantyhose Still a compulsive shopper, but thanks for the advice. One day she will give up on the pantyhose but who knows when she does we will celebrate!
She won't wear sandals says she hates showing her toes. Very pickey but she has forgotten a lot of what she likes to eat and wardrobe to wear. I think its about independance and dressing herself. I found she likes sketchers that are shoes that have velcro to wear. Thanks again I guess we will buy the hose, cuz if we don't she will insist later that we go buy some...
Sprite, just a suggestion - buy the pantyhose a size larger than she used to - tell her they resized them - it will make them easier to get on and off without runs. Also, go to the trashcan as soon as her back is turned and retrieve the packaging and put it and the receipt aside, so you can return them if she doesn't wear them. You have to be creative and sneaky. Keep them happy and yet do what is best for them. We walk a very fine line! You are doing a great job!
i agree but i would also buy 6 pair from similiar to what she wears from the drugstore brands and maybe save some big bucks. she may not know the difference. just say her 'regular' brand was sold out and not making them anymore-yes white lies help alot. divvi
When I used to buy panty hose I bought them for under $2.00 and I imagine they are not much more than that now (for the drugstore brand) Man, am I glad I was able to get rid of those. Remember when we used to wear the ones with the seam up the back and before pantyhose there were garter belts and before that garters. I was just a teenager then.
Thanks for the advice! She will know if I try to by them for her. She wants to shop and remembers, so, it is good for her. Funny what they remember! I will get the packaging though when she is not looking! We are @ Target getting her Axona now. Then to Macys for Make up and Pennys for hosery. She says she is willing to try my make up tomorrow...I did get her off Lancome lipliner and lipstick and into Covergirl like I wear... anyways thanks again...btw Axona was 76.50 after 20% coupon.
It's very hard for most people to put lipstick on another person. When my little granddaughters want "stick-lick" on their lips, I find the gloss on little wands is much much easier to put on the bottom lip, with a dab on each side of "cupid's bow" (the top lips) and them have them do the "lip thing" where you rub the top and bottom lips together. Girls, HOW do you describe that particular movement without doing it?? :-) Sprite, try a gloss with an applicator wand and see if she likes it!
Oh she wont let me put any make upon her, or dress her either. She wants a new lipstick, among her other high maintenance.
I transferred $ from her MMa to her checking today, because this woman is on a roll, She is a moving target, but I do have a pic of her on the AD pic page and she looks really good there!
Sprite, be careful about her spending. You have nooooooooooooooo idea how expensive everything will be as time progresses. I had a black belt in shopping and had to go through withdrawal after my husband's diagnosis. Read Marilyn's post on In Home care... Sprite, if she falls and cannot do for herself, the costs of nursing care at home will exceed $1000 a week (24/7) and it was NOT covered by any kind of insurance.
Is she your Mother?... you are so good with her. IF ONLY!!! we all had sons who understood our 'essential maintenance requirementgs'. :-)
i was also wondering about the excessive spending. if she is wealthy then have at it. if not saving for the future may come in handy. like nancy said, going thru her drawers and makeup will probably reveal way to many things bought needlessly. unless it is just for pleasure and the expense is not a burden. i agree you are very good to be going out of your way to please her. divvi
I myself am very frugal. I also have taught my spouse to be very frugal, so my Mom's spending upsets me a lot. Here is a little background on us: I am her youngest child, her daughter. I have 1 older sibling. 10 years ago, when I was married, my Mom moved to San Diego to be close to us after the LA earthquake. She lived alone (divorced) We have always been pretty close. All 3 of us used to go out to eat alot. Then she started changing, I thought she was just busy with work. We all worked for same company until I got the call from her coworkers. So last January, I filed FMLA for her and did all the stuff (DPOA) (NEURO) one does and I got her on Aricept in Feb 08 and helped her retire. She got SDI for the 52 weeks...ANYWAYS I FOUND HER a companion and she has been under her care when I am at work or unavailable...she charges 5.00/hr and is licensed by the county for respite. When living alone, I monitored her and she was calling as seen on tv ads and ordering 400.00 of stuff monthly so I had to fix that and 5 accidental insurance policies as she has an HMO I am the one who (when she refinanced in 2003 and cashed out) opened an mma for her and she has some money in there, also rental income. She is also an only child, and her parents are early 90's now, they live in Apple Valley. They have money but we all live very independently not relying on eachother for money. So now, we have 2 vacancies, her old townhome in san diego and our vacation home in arizona...my spouse is working on both hers and our rental to save us all $ and we moved her in with us Jan 19 2009, asked her what she wanted to keep regarding her possessions, rest of stuff we are storing in our garage...landlording and caregiving is tough but not impossible. Spouse takes her to dr tomorrow I think uti as she was so upbeat on initial Axona but last few days not so much and I slaked off giving her cran juice due to Axona liquid... So I hope it is not a decline. I want her to stay how she is and better yet, improve...
Sorry I thought you were her son. I don't know how I got that idea. She sounds like she's a lively one, allright, and you have your hands full. Are you still in California? I gather she is not 65. How marvelous you found someone who will work for $5.00 an hour. Teen age baby sitters charge more than that!!. Has she been diagnosed with AD? I wish there was a way to control these Home Shopping Network programs for senior citizens. I can certainly understand how that could easily get totally out of hand. They make everything seem so attractive and really coax people to call in quickly.
Nancy, We all live in San Diego in CA. She just turned 66 in January. My Mom's companion used to charge more, it depends on length of visit. And she got foster kids now, so she says she can charge Mom less. Her name is Kay and she is 50 but looks like she is much younger. I attribute my Mother's great attitude to Kay. She is very bubbly and great with my Mom. She even told me to pay her and not Mom so its like they are friends. I can trust her completely too. I drive my mom to work to with me. Kay meets us and takes her on outings or back to her house and after work I meet them and we go home. The first Neuro said Mom has brain shrinkage (MRI) and that was about 1 year ago. We got a 2nd opinion right away and same was noted. My sibling insists she had mini strokes when she had a bout of phenomnia in 2007. That before she quit smoking. I think it is from refusing to take HBP Medicine all her life. She is on the BP meds now and 1 statin. I noticed her decline after that statin she has been on it for 45 days now ...so I told dr I half the pills. 40 mg seems like a high dose for statin. Her chol went down and we eat oatmeal every day and Mom hates it so I need to dress it up I guess! Next dr visit will be soon and she will get bloodwork before so maybe the statin will be cut from her regimene. So either the statin drug or the uti is causing her decline I hope...
Sprite = statins can cause memory loss. My hb was on one and by day 3 he could not remember who he had spent the day working with. About 2% have this reaction but doctors will deny it. Google it and see for yourself.