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      CommentAuthormary75*
    • CommentTimeApr 12th 2009
     
    Sometimes I try to imagine where you all are and what you are doing. For example, I wonder what Divvi sees when she looks out her kitchen window. Never having been in Texas, I wonder if she sees hills or plains or water? Today I'm wondering what you all are doing, or seeing, or hearing, this Easter Sunday. Is Mary (Red) cleaning up after her out-of-state visitors? Or just sitting in a comfortable chair, remembering the pleasure of their company. Is Kitty telling her cats about the Easter Bunny? Ol don could be writing about his remarkable boyhood friends.
    I'm going to church. I see a soft April rain and a slight movement of wind in the fir trees across the lane in my neighour's yard.
    • CommentAuthorehamilton*
    • CommentTimeApr 12th 2009
     
    Mary75, I see that our thoughts were in about the same place at the same time.
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    Mary75, I can see beautiful green grass and my dogwood tree that is covered in beautiful blooms, spring has sprung in Missouri. I am getting ready to go and meet the family at a restaurant for a fabulous Easter brunch and then coming back to my home for an Easter egg hunt for all four of my grandsons.
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    Mary 75, I am seeing the 5 beautiful dogwoods in my yard that are in full bloom. Life is good even with AD in our life.
    • CommentAuthorDianeT*
    • CommentTimeApr 12th 2009
     
    I'm in WA state and sitting in front of my pc before my husband gets up. I can look out the window and it is overcast and raining. It is very green and the trees are starting to bloom.
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    I am seeing the beautiful sunshine today after the tornadoes and all the damage done to our area this past week. My flowers are blooming - spring is here! God is good.
    • CommentAuthorbille
    • CommentTimeApr 12th 2009
     
    Easter is always a great day in our life. Rained last night but very nice now. Carol has been bathed, fed and ready to go to our sons house for Easter Lunch with our two kids and six grandkids. Yes, God is definitely good!!!! Bill
    • CommentAuthorAdmin
    • CommentTimeApr 12th 2009
     
    I am combining the Easter threads into one - below are the two posts from the other thread.
    • CommentAuthorAdmin
    • CommentTimeApr 12th 2009
     
    CommentAuthorehamilton CommentTime1 hour ago edit delete
    A Happy Easter morning to each and every one of you. Here in Southwestern PA the sun is shining, the children and grandchildren are coming and maybe for a few short hours life will be good.
    • CommentAuthorAdmin
    • CommentTimeApr 12th 2009
     
    CommentAuthorbille CommentTime10 minutes ago edit delete
    I have the crud today and could not get my head and chest cleared early enough to go to our Easter Service. Been watching some good Easter programs on TV. Going to sons house for Lunch with all our kids and grandkids so it should be a marvelous day. Tried to get my DW to wear something colorful for Easter but best I could do was a red shirt.

    Happy Easter to you. It is a great day for me and my family. Bill E
    • CommentAuthormarygail*
    • CommentTimeApr 12th 2009
     
    I am sitting in my living room with one of my daughters and two granddaughters, just finished Easter Lunch, sun is shinning but cold out, going to see dh in nh at 1:30 HOPE HE IS HAVING A GOOD DAY.
    • CommentAuthorjoyful*
    • CommentTimeApr 12th 2009
     
    I am sitting here looking out at my neighborhood where it is peaceful and green with the spring shoots and flowers. I thank God I live in a country where people can worship as they please, no battle ravaged homes, where even though our country has many faults we are still a wonderful nation.

    I made my pilgrimage yesterday to the gravesite of my dear husband and brought a gift of white lilies to express my love. I know he is not there however I want to show my everylasting love for him and rememberance.

    Going to my son's house for Easter dinner and to relax with my loved ones. Still grieving for my dear one who has been gone for two months now but remembering more and more of our life together before Alzheimer's which is a blessing.
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      CommentAuthorSusan L*
    • CommentTimeApr 12th 2009
     
    A very emotional day for me. Finally got my medications issues taken care of, which leaves me with just raw emotion over the changes in the last year and the fear of the year to come. It is sunny here in Maine, but too breezy. Blustery, as Jim would say. Not feeling up to church today, for the first time in many years. Mom went alone, allowed Dylan to hang with my youngest son, his favorite funtime uncle. We had 5 wild turkeys in our back yard this morning. Jim and Jeff went for a ride in Jeff's bright yellow GTO, and he revved it up for him. They went and got my medication and I feel much better. Jeff came back and would not tell me what they had talked about. He just told me to rest assured that Jim loves me very much. Of course in fine Susan Style, I cried. Thank God for small blessings. Love to you all on this beautiful, albiet, cold Easter Day.
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    Mary75,

    I also live in Texas. I am in my computer room, at my desk, looking at my small town neighborhood. Our trees are nearly leafed out Last night God blessed us with a good rain. He threw in some high winds that scared my little dog. We are so desperate for rain in Texas! I will see my family this evening.
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    Easter Bunny brought me an basket today. As a child I never had an Easter basket. This bothered my DH husband when we married so every year, for 25 years, he has brought me a basket!! I did not think he was capable this year, but he pulled it off...maybe someone helped him.

    Happy Easter to ALL....Ann
    • CommentAuthorbriegull*
    • CommentTimeApr 12th 2009
     
    My husband's eating pizelle brought by our dear Ukrainian family-friends, and I'm smelling the easter lillies here. Since my nearest son's wife is Jewish, they're all out of town at her family Passover, and since the Ukrainian family's daughter has her in-laws here for the first time, we're spending Easter alone but that's fine. My daughter's home and we've been getting a LOT done in my husband's ex"office" without him knowing it. He's happily watching golf while I bundle up incredible quantities of empty cardboard boxes and plastic baggies for tomorrow's recycling. I think he must have saved every plastic newspaper bag for 2-3 years!

    The weather's beautiful, a little chilly, but the daffies are out, the forsythia almost so (one of the glories of the northeast in spring, forsythia; like azaleas in Georgia or TX). I'm feeling very peaceful!
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    This morning my wife and I went to church. Then back to our retirement home for Sunday Brunch, joined by my sister and her new service dog - a 7 month old Portugese Water Dog (like the Obama's have). As I look out our window, the sky is beginning to cloud over, the trees are still bare, but the snow is gone. As Susan L said, it is very "blustery" here in Maine, but we know if we wait long enough spring will come. I noticed today, driving back from church, that most of the frost heaves have settled down.
    • CommentAuthorbriegull*
    • CommentTimeApr 12th 2009
     
    Marsh, your sister has a seven month old service dog? Goodness, that's young! Or is she training him herself?

    For those who haven't been hearing the news, not only do the Obamas finally have their dog, but THE CAPTAIN WAS RESCUED off Somalia!!! LISTEN tonight!
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    Briegull, she is training it herself, but is going to a class specifically for training service dogs. She needs it mainly for stability (she can pull herself up on the dog when she falls) and to pick up things that she has dropped. She has an older one, also a "Porty", now 10 years old. The older one is beginning to refuse to do things she wants, and lately has even refused to go with her. Thus the new one.
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    Our best friends left at noon today after a very nice weekend visit. My husband held up until they left. He didn't even try to communicate with them in between hugging them hello and hugging them goodbye. They are great friends, and said that they will be back soon. They are great support for me. It's been stormy off and on since 9 this morning, with severe thunderstorm watches and warnings. After getting my husband cleaned up (he had a big accident as soon as they left) and bathed him and got him settled in his recliner, I began doing the laundry. Since I haven't been able to get on the computer (except to check for any emergency discussion yesterday for five minutes) this afternoon is being spent reading here and doing loads of clothes. Because my husband is having a bad day today, we're going to order out and go pick it up and bring it home for dinner. The weather isn't getting any better, darn it.

    Today is also my younger son's birthday and my oldest grandson's birthday. One is in Hawaii and one in Houston, so phone calls will have to do this year.

    Marsh, I think the dog is very cute and looks like it would make an excellent service dog. I hope she is fortunate and it trains very easily.
    • CommentAuthorKitty
    • CommentTimeApr 12th 2009
     
    I don't celebrate Easter. I am spiritual, not religious. But the weather is glorious.
    • CommentAuthorJudy
    • CommentTimeApr 12th 2009
     
    It been a beautiful day here as well. In this part of Texas, we have cedar trees mixed with mesquite trees and various oaks, etc. Right now there are pink flowers, we call them buttercups..and dewberry blossoms blooming around our fences here at the farm. Our daughter came and helped DH with his garden and he was thrilled. Her visit surprised him.
    I got up early, fixed their breakfasts, then went to the early church service to hear our annual Easter Contata. It was the first time I had been in the audience and not with the choir in a number of years. The music was just so pretty and it was so nice to see my choir friends as well.
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      CommentAuthorSusan L*
    • CommentTimeApr 12th 2009
     
    Briegull, where do you live, I have forgotten???
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    I woke up early this morning and I went outside to watch the sunrise..I noticed two squirrels running side by side, and each stayed within inches of each other. Up and down the trees they went, across a phone line, and back to another tree. They ran in perfect synchronization, and I thought of my dw (got it right) and how we used to be that way. Before I could get out of my sorrows, I noticed another squirrel, all alone, and he also followed the path of the other two....I thought it sad that he was alone, and felt much as he did....In a flash, I saw how my situation changed so unexpectedly and quickly, and that I am now that lone squirrel...
    The weather was perfect, skies became blue, and the sun was just so gorgeous...what a perfect day....Easter...a time of spring...but being in Florida, there are only 2 seasons....summer and tourist...and tourist season is just ending...
    I am inspired to live life to the fullest, despite the ongoing calamity surrounding me. I will not be the second victim....
    • CommentAuthorbriegull*
    • CommentTimeApr 12th 2009
     
    Susan, I'm in Rhode Island, in New England. The hyacinths are out now, too. And scillia (or scills). My stepmother, in Texas, made stained glass rondels, very beautiful. She made me one with a bright blue flower, with bright green leaves, obviously a bulb flower. About 12" high. Said it was because that flower grew up here; she'd found the pattern in a book. I was puzzled, until the next spring. It was a scillia. Which, at its highest, is about 2" tall. They spread all over, there are volunteers on every lawn. I love them!
    • CommentAuthorRo13
    • CommentTimeApr 12th 2009
     
    WE had a beautiful Easter Day with our children and Grand-children, Our Son-in-law picked us up and took us to their house for a Great dinner, and dessert out-doors, where the rest of the family joined us. Their house is on the Arlington River,DH enjoyed it there. We also celebrated his 87th Birthday. We are Blessed...
    Like Frank said,even though there are some tough times.....I will not be the second victim
    • CommentAuthordivvi*
    • CommentTimeApr 12th 2009
     
    Hi ! hope everyone enjoyed the weekend- we are back as well after a flash trip to visit my dearmom. shes 90yrs young and cooked easter brunch-she loves the lousiana casinos and loves to tell me of her last junket! of course she always wins..:)
    we ate ourselves silly and stayed over nite and was hellacious on DH the bedroom changes and bathrooms and very confused all nite. restless and trying to escape all the time..no keyed deadbolts to ensure he cant escape.. i am glad to be back home with DH in bed as i type finally! we are both exhausted.and even my chihuahuas are glad to be home.

    mary 75- we have tons ofsections of glass sliding doors the whole way down the home along the balconies on all floors so we have birdseye shot of beautiful lakes and gently rolling hills from just about any room. i am on a hill overlooking the lake below. as i type here with my keyboard-in my living room -the view is blue skies and green oak trees and the lake. lots of singing cardinals, wrens, and squirrells in my trees every morning as i feed all of the critters outside my kitchen balcony on the other side of the house. its a small wooded forest and there is tons of wildlife eager for handouts.

    Divvi
    • CommentAuthorLizbeth
    • CommentTimeApr 12th 2009
     
    I walked down the street today in a neighborhood full of Mount Fuji flowering cherry trees. It was like a fairytale.
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    Reading this thread I was struck by how many beautiful descriptions of nature were inspired by mary75's post. I wonder how many of us would have taken the time--if we had "normal" busy lives--to appreciate these things.
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      CommentAuthormoorsb*
    • CommentTimeApr 12th 2009
     
    Here in North Texas, we woke to rain and cool weather. My wife and I are in the choir and we had to be at church early for rehersal. I am amazed that she is able to sing. I have to place the music in her hands as she can not keep up with the program, but she is able to go thru the music without a problem. After 3 Hallelujah choirs I am ready for a break. We are planning to go on a trip this week to DC and check out the museums.
    • CommentAuthorJanet
    • CommentTimeApr 12th 2009
     
    moorsb,

    The cherry blossoms were supposed to be beautiful this week. I hope they are still nice next week while you are in DC. I've always wanted to be there for the cherry blossoms festival. Have a good trip.
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      CommentAuthorol don*
    • CommentTimeApr 13th 2009
     
    Mary 75 hmmm very cool an windy here in Mich this morning,sunrise service at 7 then out to dinner,got home from dinner an LO asked what I wanted her to cook for dinner? The days may be nice but the outcome remains the same,she didn't even know that she had just had dinner,she has four boys an two of them went to the trouble to call an wish her a Happy Easter,she never even heard from the other two,I suppose out of sight out of mind,I guess its she an I against the world,Happy Easter everyone.
    • CommentAuthordanielp*
    • CommentTimeApr 13th 2009
     
    We enjoyed a pleasant drive to Ann Arbor for dinner with in-laws we haven't seen for a while. My strictly proper DW told her sister that the dinner rolls were "creepy" ... dead silence around the table ... oh well.
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      CommentAuthormary75*
    • CommentTimeApr 14th 2009
     
    Do we have any one from Illinois? I remember Easters in Urbana - my first husband was going to graduate school, microbiology, and I was working as a nurse - that in April the birds would wake us up early in the morning with their songs and calls. At times, it was a racket. especially if I'd worked the evening shift. The warm winds from the south made everything come alive in a matter of 2 weeks. It made me better understand the stories by William Faulkner, their sensuality.
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      CommentAuthorol don*
    • CommentTimeApr 14th 2009
     
    not Illinios Mary but we do have a male cardinal thats seranades us every day what a beautiful song,the only bad thing is he is obsessed with windows an flies into them all day long, when he isn't singing of course,it has been two years an his lips must be quite tender by now,the good thing is he continues to sing daily
    • CommentAuthorJanet
    • CommentTimeApr 14th 2009
     
    Mary,

    We're in Bloomington - not far from Urbana. Things are waking up here. We have robins, gold finch, house finch, and lots of sparrows at our feeders. We also have many grackles and crows - wish we could get rid of them. We live in a fairly new neighborhood without large trees, and I am thrilled that a couple of squirrels moved in during the last year. I love to watch them try to get the bird food. We also have rabbits. Our trees are budding out, trees around town have flowers, on them, and we have daffodils and tulips in bloom. Also, we're having a lot of April showers.
    • CommentAuthordivvi*
    • CommentTimeApr 14th 2009
     
    ol don, i have a pair of cute cardinals that i swear follow me from window to window around m y house reminding me to throw them bread!! i can be putting on my makeup in my bathroom and hes on the railing watching me, then i move to living room to read here and post and hes on the rail out the balcony window there too. then i go to kitchen to get breakfast and hes out on the rails there off the kitchen balcony..hes darling and very tame. i leave a bowl of water outside the balcony kitchen and all the birds/squirrels get their drinks just inches from me and my chihuahuas watching. my male chihuahua and the squirrlels go eye to eye thru the glass. its so cute. i have tried to cut them off, but cant stand them standing at my glass door wanting a treat.. i am soft hearted when it comes to the helpless animals or people...:) divvi
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      CommentAuthordeb112958
    • CommentTimeApr 14th 2009 edited
     
    I'm in Illinois in a suburb southwest of Chicago. Our weather has not been the nicest the last few days. Cold, wet and windy is how its going but we do have a lot of fat robins in the neighborhood. I also have two mourning doves in my backyard that love to coo early in the morning. The tulips are just now starting to sprout up and the magnolia trees are beginning to bud. No leaves on any trees yet. Here in Chicago there is a saying that we only have two seasons: Winter and Road Construction.
    • CommentAuthorbriegull*
    • CommentTimeApr 14th 2009
     
    I used to think the birds were singing for joy in the spring. I'd answer them with my own whistles, and they'd answer back.

    What I have finally realized is that they're staking out their territories, and luring mates. The cardinals flying into the windows see the reflection and are attacking the "intruder"

    I love cardinals too!
    • CommentAuthorWolf
    • CommentTimeMar 27th 2016
     
    I remember making ham on the bone where I have no memory of how big they were but we would have a houseful of friends or family and kids running around or teenagers sitting in the family room watching television. The ham would go in hours ahead and someone would mash the potatoes while others helped or added milk and everyone was chattering. Someone would mention we're out of white and I would go downstairs and get some. The veggies would be on and someone would tell a story that everyone got involved in. The adults would eat in the dining room around our long table and the youngsters would eat in the kitchen which all of them preferred after the age of about ten or so. Dianne would sneak into the kitchen and slice some more ham and the stories and the wine would flow because nobody was driving home. The kids had sleeping bags and all slept in the family room with the french doors closed and the TV on long into the night. The women would be in Dianne's closet looking at something she bought and commenting. She had such beautiful clothes.

    In the morning I would get up when I heard the first sound and go down into the kitchen and put coffee on. Milk and cereal for the younger crowd until breakfast was ready. And then plow through the dishes where two would always be up and dry while the coffee brewed. Then it was right into sausages and bacon that would go into the warmed stove while I fought off the boys from the bacon and before we had the table set, the house was full of chatter again where someone needed an aspirin and so on until they all piled out the front door into their cars and we waved and would shut the door and look at each other.

    The friends I was thinking of told me not to talk about Alzheimer's and when I told them that wasn't right, they then closed ranks and never called or wrote again. The whole group of them did that in unison. I wished that they wouldn't have their cozy little group after dumping us like that. Two years ago one of the women died of cancer. No tear has ever been shed and I feel nothing except cold resolve that I don't want to do things like they did. I want to see things through.

    Wait. I did. And today I had a western omelette with raspberry jam on toast staring at my cats who wanted more bacon. Happy Easter everyone that celebrates it.
    • CommentAuthorbrindle
    • CommentTimeMar 27th 2016
     
    Hi, Wolf.

    Happy Easter to you as well.

    When my husband was diagnosed with AD (13 yrs ago), we decided we needed a good support system and thought we should tell friends that he had AD. Well, it was like he grew horns or something from the looks we got or that we just gave them a disease! When anyone would call, they would talk to me as if he wasn't even there (on the extension) or see us in person and ignore him and talk with me. I couldn't believe it and my heart just broke for him. People in my church who were struggling with the disease did not want to speak of it and turned away from us. My husband decided we should not speak of it to anyone and I promised. I knew our neighbors would eventually know something was up.

    My husband has been dead now 3 yrs. People still don't understand about AD. As our doctor used to tell us, "medicine is very new and we don't know everything." I think it will take more time than some of us have, before AD becomes an ok subject. We just have to be patient.

    It was a beautiful day here today. Church was packed. The sky was blue and the trees are getting their leaves, flowers are blooming. Each day is a new miracle.
    • CommentAuthorLindylou*
    • CommentTimeMar 28th 2016
     
    Hope that all who celebrate Easter, and all those that celebrate spring, found blessing in the day.

    After going to church and then driving to NH to have brunch with my partner’s family, we came home. Shortly thereafter my partner heard exasperation in my voice when I discovered that she was mixing the clean laundry from the dryer with both the dirty laundry from the hamper and all the garbage and trash from our waste basket. She became upset and I tried to give her space in the front of the house while I watched TV in the back. When it had been too quiet for too long I went looking. She was not in the house, not in the back yard, not on the sidewalk of our street.

    Here is the blessing. I enlisted the help of neighbors, and between us we found her and gently helped her home. Gentle loving neighbors, put in our path, helping without judgment.

    Brindle, I wish so much your church friends had supported you. Did you ever find support community? Somehow, apart from not getting much of any help from my dear partner’s family, I am being able to gather a support network around us. I feel blessed, and wish it for everyone.

    Wolf, reading your contributions is like reading poetry, so much joy, pleasure, pain and realism all packed into one short pithy paragraph.
    • CommentAuthormyrtle*
    • CommentTimeMar 28th 2016
     
    Sounds like a mixed day for most. Mine was very good. I went to my sister-in-law's house for brunch. Among the guests were her son-in-law, who owns an auto body shop, and her 25-yr-old grandson, who is his father's right-hand man. I asked the grandson to take a look at the panel in my car that had popped out (probably hit in a parking lot). He was able to pop it back in right there and suggested I stop in at the shop for a complimentary touch-up on the spot where the paint had been scratched! This young man is always so kind to me. I think it's because of my care of his great-uncle (my husband).

    Then I went to visit my husband. A vocalist was performing in the unit and my husband was playing the air guitar. This is a new skill for him - I have never known him to play a musical instrument. After the musician left, my husband started chattering. I could not decipher what he was saying but it was obviously funny because he was laughing a lot. I guess he was telling jokes. I left after he dozed off.
    • CommentAuthorWolf
    • CommentTimeMar 28th 2016
     
    Thank you Lindylou. I'm a ten finger, reliable typist and it comes out fast where my only worry is that it comes out real. My whole life I've felt that I'm much better off not being afraid of the side of me most people call feminine - but which I find is really a more holistic grasp of the range of our own feelings and thoughts. I believe role is important in life; but, it is taken on freely - not dictated by convention which keeps changing anyway.

    I may have a more intimate access across a broader range because I care about convention the way pigs fly. I have no time for the conventional ideas about dementia caregivers because they are wrong. Society is not ready to accept dementia the way it is doing with cancer and the way it did with leprosy and handicapped people. I'm glad you have some visible support around you but most don't. Most find they are shunned. It will change as we have seen other wrongs change but that is not yet here.

    In that post I went for the first time deeply into very fond memories with the very people who hurt me by far the most. I came here because after saying happy easter on the widow thread I saw no one had mentioned it here. As I searched the word easter and Elizabeth on the widows thread had mentioned ham, it came to me that I would go there to those wonderful days where without children, I had my very large family around me. It feels like a healing experience today.

    I believe expression slaves itself to thought with enough experience in a very similar way in which the fingers and the keyboard also do with experience. In those moments I am flying and there are no fingers just as there is no Wolf. Expression is flying or it is a constructed essay. Just my opinion.

    There's a saying about juggling. If you're juggling and you think about something, you're not juggling anymore.
    • CommentAuthorWolf
    • CommentTimeMar 28th 2016
     
    Hi Myrtle, the nephew is happy to help you and your husband is having a good time. What is missing in this picture? Why is it you're not happy or having a good time? Who wrote this stuff?
    • CommentAuthormyrtle*
    • CommentTimeMar 28th 2016
     
    Huh?
    • CommentAuthorWolf
    • CommentTimeMar 28th 2016
     
    I was trying to say how unfair it is that sometime's the caregiver seems to suffer most from the disease.
    • CommentAuthormyrtle*
    • CommentTimeMar 29th 2016
     
    Oh, I see. That is very true, Wolf, but at this point, I'll take what I can get.
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      CommentAuthorol don*
    • CommentTimeMar 29th 2016
     
    Ah 75,you started this thread 7 years ago,lots have changed for all of us,my friends that I wrote about have either "jumped the twig" or moved south to warmer temps,how ever the big blk dawg still gives me great comfort,thank you again for your kindness,my mom would always say"there is a place in Heaven reserved for you"now I know what she meant