I am new to the group and all I can say is why me!I go to work everyday and worry about my husband Ihave pressure at work and then I come home to him starring at the tv everyday it drives me nuts.I am getting all the stuff in order for when he has to leave someday,I think I am at the point I need someone to check on him.This is a living night mare I just want it to go away but I know after 5 years its getting worse.I dont know if any of you feel this way but I am living with a stranger I dont even want to sleep with him.We havent in yrs I am getting very tired at times I have to do everything except he does try to do laundry and clean.I just need to keep reading at this sight because I give credit to those women and men that just keep hanging on.I dont think I can hang on much longer and oh by the way we are getting divorced he agreed to this I am just being honest hope I did not offend anyone.ONE DAY AT A TIME.
You sound like me 2 years ago. When one of my neighbors called me at work to tell me that my husband had gone outside and fallen down and could not get up, I knew that it was time to get help. We went from 4 hours a day with in-home aides to full time 9 hour a day aides. Life if tough and I am sure that it will get tougher but my motto is "What is. . . . . . . . .is. Can't change it live with it. If divorce is what is best for you and for him, do what you have to do. If divorce is rooted only in the stress of this horrible disease, please know that there is help out there. Good luck
I am glad that you found this site. It is a huge help to me and many others here. I have thought about the future and Divorce. I have put my life on hold while I have been caring for my wife, for the past 2 yrs. I see a time when I will need to get on with my life, and I will not be able to care for her 24/7. My thoughts are, while she is still in the early to mid stages I want to spend this time with her, while we can still do things togather. In the future when she does not know who I am and is lost in her own world, is when I will consider Divorce. I will still support her, and make sure she is being cared for. I will get on with my life. I am 55 and miss the sex. I have also been living off our savings and will need to get back to work. One Day at a Time. Carpe Diem!!
Please click on the "previous blog" section on the home page(www.thealzheimerspouse.com) of the website, and scroll through the topics. Read the "Welcome Blog" first. I am willing to bet that there is NOTHING you are feeling that I have not written in a blog. We all feel the same loneliness, anger, especially the part about living with a stranger. Just reading some of the titles of the blogs will have you saying - Oh, I can relate to that one!