My DH thinks that our son stole a stero that son-in-law gave him 3 years ago for our boat. Son told me that he had tried it to see if it worked and the CD part did not work. He said that DH knew that he took it to try it and that he has since put it back. DH is right now all down and upset because daughter and son-in-law will be so mad when they find out that son stole the stero. I told DH that may be he just didn't find it when he looked. So I called son to be reminded of what went on. He told me that the stero should be on the shelf with the speakers. I sure hope that it is there when I take a look. This all happened over a year ago and memories fade. Isn't it something how some dumb little thing that shouldn't matter can cause another problem. My point here is that son understands how things are and doesn't get his feelings hurt and daughter on the other hand would get all upset with son if her father mentions this rather than seeing it like it is. DH probably just didn't see it, which happens all the time. Or, it got moved somewhere else, which happens all the time and I will eventually find it.
Today so far has not been a good day. Today my husband told me that I don't do ANYTHING. He does everything in the house. He said this just after I made him his lunch. I asked him who cooks, cleans, does laundry, pays the bills, etc. and he said "you do". So I said "how can you say I don't do anything" and he said "because you don't". I know its the disease but gosh, it really hurt my feelings.
yes, i truly do. I'm tired of sucking up my feelings everyday and keeping it in because I don't want to worry my kids or my parents, but I don't know what else to do.
maybe so vickie- but too on top of it we are stifling the feelings so much that our bodies and organs will reel the effects of it over our lifetime. and its non reversible. not good news. what does not go out stays inside and the damage builds up. divvi
Today we watched "The Sunshine Boys" - Walter Matthau and George Burns. We like them both but I don't think I'd really seen it before, or at least not for many years. It's obvious that they both are supposed to have dementia, Matthau worse than Burns. I never thought I'd feel that such a movie was insensitive - but today i did.
Divvi said: if we are stifling the feelings so much that our bodies and organs will reel the effects of it .........
My heart is acting up AND my Blood Glucose was elevated to 148 (119 is diabetes) .. Doc said to cut way back on carbs and we'll check it periodically. 148 is not that high at all...but...I googled Diabetes on the web and one of the triggers for high blood glucose is STRESS. ....... HELLO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Everyone should rush out and check their blood glucose level ...( grin )
Yeah, I need to vent today. I guess my "me" day is over. Jean's son was paying for an extra day for him to go to day care so I could have some time for my self. Well, they paid for that day in June and July. Then they said that they couldn't pay for August as they didn't have extra money then. Now DIL says it will be AT LEAST October before they can pay again. I'm alreay paying for the three days that i work. I sure can't be paying more. So I am pissed today. Son only lives two miles away. We're lucky if we hear from him every couple of months.
Yes, bluedaze. Normally they charge $50.00 a day but you pay what you feel you can afford. I figured I could handle $20.00 a day so that's what I've been paying. And he doesn't stay the full day. I usually pick him up about 2:00. I work 8:00 -1:30 three days a week.
Slap to my sister who did it again. I have told her that joking about Alzheimer is not funny but she thinks it is. Yesterday we were talking about one of our brothers messing up on a commitment he made to another brother. He had it in his appointment book but schedule a rafting job this weekend. Her comment 'he must have Alzheimer'. I did not say anything - changed the subject to what I had to say then left.
I kind of had it today with these breast cancer emails. I know it is important cause I have a sister and SIL who had breast cancer, but there are more things in the world besides breast cancer. Someone added heart disease to it and this was my reply back to all of them:
Jane, you are right about heart disease too, but there is a more devastating disease that needs more attention. It has been around for years but due to longer life spans we are seeing it more. By age 85, 50% of the people will have it. There is no cure or even a pill to stop or slow it. Unlike breast cancer, no surgery, chemo or radiation will stop/cure it. Unlike heart disease, no drugs or surgery will allow you to continue on enjoying life. Unlike cancer or heart disease, they have no idea what causes it. Unlike cancer or heart disease, when diagnosed with this disease, people run the other way. Unlike cancer or heart disease, where even when terminal the person can still know who you are, talk, smile, enjoy family, with this disease they mind rots away - there is no recognition, no interacting, nothing but emptiness.
It is a death sentence. It is 'the long goodbye'. They say it will devastate Medicare. What is this horrendous disease? ALZHEIMER DISEASE It is not an 'old folks' disease as there are people in their 30s, 40s, and 50s being diagnosed with it. It devastates families, especially the young children who have to watch their parent go through it. These families are often financially ruined because SSDI refuses to accept that someone young can be a victim of this disease so fight 'tooth and nail' against granting them SSDI. When they finally get it, they are often financially ruined. They have to wait up to 2 years for Medicaid while the family goes deeper into debt.
It affects women more than men but because men usually die earlier, women are left to go through it alone. It is a death sentence that my husband has received - Early Onset Alzheimer Disease which is AD before 65. It stinks and ruins your future.
You don't know the future, so don't put off your dreams until your are 65 because you may never see it or be able to enjoy life then.
I actually got a couple replies back from people who were choked at what AD is and that Art was diagnosed. Anyone, my ranting email for the day, week and month.
Ditto...Ditto...Charlotte. And, Hospice needs to be training their personnel that AD is a condition that can progress very fast towards the end and they need to know, just because a person may not be in pain like the cancer people they work so well with....AD people are very, very ill people.
mustang trainer, Welcome to the site but sorry you have a need.
My husband attends day care 3 times a week. He has been going for 2 1/2 years now. He is now 63. They are not always just for people with AD. The one my husband attends has people of all ages and physical limitations. I don't know where you are located, but you could check with your state's Department of Aging for information.
Check this website which explains Senior Day Care: http://www.eldercare.gov/Eldercare.NET/Public/Resources/Factsheets/Adult_Day_Care.aspx