Charlotte, isn't family life great? Hope you can get things settled down. Sounds like Art understands the situation pretty well. It's good that you can at least talk about it with him.
Charlotte, I'm so sorry about all these problems you are facing right now. Hang in there and grab hold of the rope which is dangling with lots of knots! Lots of hugs to you.
Oh Charlotte, I'm so sorry for what you are going through. Just tell daughter that 3 adults in a motorhome is 1 too many. Take it from me, sometimes you just have to say NO! You can be nice about it and still say "sorry, no can do."
Charlotte, I agree with the others....you have too much, and you need to say no- they might get mad, but in time, they will get over it....you have to look out for you and your husband.
I am so excited -Solved one problem: the hockey. I signed up for the balance of the hockey season on NHL Center Stage. Now he can watch the Bruins all he wants (hopefully they will be on when they play) and any other games every evening he wants. He may not remember the games but at least he will having the joy of watching them, especially his beloved Boston Bruins. My son says he will bring his computer over here to do his homework so he can watch the Bruins (he finally got off his posterior and is getting some technical training so he can support his family).
As for my daughter - you are right Susan. There is no room in the motorhome for 3 adults and 1 4 year old. Could work it out with the boy because he has a soft voice and doesn't talk much. As for daughter, we can't even talk on the phone for more than 5 minutes before she fires off her mouth - living together in a motorhome is zero.4 years ago we paid for her to come back when he was a baby and we were ready to kill each other after a week. It didn't even work when we owned a house where she had her own bedroom because she is a slob and does not respect other peoples things. Th only way she is coming back is if she has a shelter/housing to go into to.
Tough Love is reeeeeely tough, Charlotte, but you're living proof that it can be done.
I worry about ou, though. You have to fight the fight with DIL, worry about the 2 grandsons, and then your daughter and granddaughter, not to mention the 'missing granddaughter' you wrote about.
I understand about trying to contain noise as much as possible, but we also have to try to 'live with it'. No Nursing Home, Hospital, Memory Care Facility is that quiet! So, trying to keep him in a semi silent world isn't that good either. My duaghter kept a radio playing in her babies room, so people talking in the other part of the house wouldn't wake them up.
I'm pretty sure if your husband went to a hockey game in person, it would be rather noisy!!! Try to find a happy medium and don't worry about everything else so much. He may have left the game because of a ittle 'attention deficit' of hisown. Foster got to the place that he couldn't watch an entire football game to the end ...even when it was his beloved Clemson Tigers playing. Love, Nancy