I am in shock, I guess. It is just before 5 a.m. here and I received a call from the hospital that my husband had another syncopal episode, and he has passed away.
Oh sweetie, I am so sorry that you have lost your husband in such a shocking way. We all know it will happen, and no matter how or when it happens, it is always incredibly painful, but when you are not expecting it, wow. Feel my arms around you. You are in my prayers, he is at peace.
Oh New Realm, I wish you could have been with him in the end but God knows best. You both have been through so much and this is such a shock to you. He's at peace now and hopefully your healing can begin. {{{{Hugs}}}}
Diana what A shock. You have had so much going on and so many decisions to make. Now you don't have to second guess yourself and take time to heal. Please stay with us. Nora
Diana, I'm so very sorry for your loss, but perhaps it is a blessing. As we've said here before, sometimes it's hard to know what to wish for. Prayers and hugs for you and your family.
Dear Diana, Please know I will be thinking and praying for you and your children. I can only imagine how shocked you must be. I hope you will find peace in the days and weeks ahead. God Bless.
Oh, I am so very sorry, New Realm. I can imagine what a shock this was to you. My thoughts and prayers are with you all during this difficult time. Hugs go out to you.
Diana, I am a loss for words. What a shock this to all of us, we cannot begin imagine how quickly this happened. You mentioned Paul had a brief episode yesterday, but I had no idea that it could have led to this.
My dear, I pray that you know that your sisters and brothers in TAS are holding you in our hearts today and would give anything to be there with you - just to surround you with love and warmth.
My God Be With You through this sad time. Please keep in touch with us. Love, Nancy B
Oh Diana, I am soooo sorry for your loss. My heart, prayers and thoughts are with you and your children during this most difficult of times. Be at peace. Sue
Diana, I just woke up and got on the read my daily update. It never occurred to me I'd be reading this. Soooooooooooooooo Sorry. I pretty new to this sight but no matter who you are, this is never expected. We live so much day to day it'd hard to imagine this day will come. My prayers are with you. All that independence and courage you have been living with will help you through this but know that we all are here for you ANYTIME you need to "talk". Take care of ypurself. And take a long breath......
Diana, what a rocky three or four months you've had, and what a sudden and unexpected ending! I'm so sorry that things had to turn out this way for you, but I know that the strength that got you this far will carry you on through to better times. I hope my DW's passing, whenever it comes, will be as swift. Big hugs!
It was almost three weeks ago that you and the group were consoling me. As a group, we are better prepared for whatever happens in front of us than anyone, yet we are not prepared for Last Day. We talk about taking care of ourselves and keeping our own identity, but we don't really do it that well. There's no time to do anything other than focus on what needs to be done in the next 10 minutes. When Last Day does come, it is disorienting. It is sad. Emotions that you had turned off or didn't know you had come pushing their way into your mind. It takes a couple of days to stop fighting them. The hard work is done. You have time to let yourself feel how you feel. Let your family and friends do the things that they are going to do. You can't stop them. You are so use to being the caregiver and making the decisions, that you can't imagine being taken care of. Your last acts as a caregiver is letting them take care of you for a little while. They need to do it and so do you.
Oh New Realm, my mouth dropped in shock so i can only imagine you and your family how devastating the news is. l agree with all the above, it may have been a blessing and he will have foregone much suffering. please accept our profound condolences. in retrospect, the irony is we all pray ours will go as suddenly and without prolonged suffering. divvi
I was so shocked when I read your sad news. Know that you and your children will be in my thoughts and prayers. You are a strong woman and I know you will make it through this. Remember to take care of yourself and your kids during this very difficult time for you. Know that all of us here are thinking of you. (((HUGS)))
I am so deeply sorry that this has come to you in this way and without warning. Take care of yourself dear friend and know that here you have an army of friends who are mourning with you.....Anita
I am so sorry to read of your loss. Well, now you will be entering another new phase of your journey, and just as you have adapted to all the other changes, in time you will adjust to this one. Peace be with you. I don't know if you've ever heard of this poem, but I think it is beautiful:
Death is nothing at all I have only slipped away into the next room I am I and you are you Whatever we were to each other That we are still Call me by my old familiar name Speak to me in the easy way you always used Put no difference in your tone Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow Laugh as we always laughed At the little jokes we always enjoyed together Play, smile, think of me, pray for me Let my name be ever the household word that it always was Let it be spoken without effort Without the ghost of a shadow in it Life means all it ever meant It is the same as it ever was There is absolute unbroken continuity What is death but a negligible accident? Why should I be out of mind Because I am out of sight? Somewhere very near Just around the corner All is well. Nothing is past; nothing is lost One brief moment and all will be as it was before How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!
Canon Henry Scott-Holland, 1847-1918, Canon of St. Paul's Cathedral
New Realm, My deepest Condolences to you, your family and friends. I am so sorry for all that you have been thru, I am sure you are shocked, It seemed as if everything was just getting in place from all the turmoil of the last few months. Please take care of yourself now. You fought so hard for him, that now you need to put the same energy into caring for yourself. I Pray you find comfort in knowing he is at peace, and now watching over you. Rk
Diana, I am so sorry for your sudden loss. What a shock it was to read this. Please know that you and the kids are in my thoughts and prayers. As others have said, it's your turn to be taken care of, please allow others to do this for you. Stay strong. Deepest condolences, ~Di
I am so sorry for your loss. Please remember that you did everything you could do - don't worry about what ifs and things you feel you could have done differently. We are all human and do the best we can do. I am sure he knew that and would not want you to have a minute of unrest about your care for him. Be good to yourself. Know that you are loved and understood here. Please keep us posted. We care. God bless.
New Realm I'm really sorry to read this news. Thank you for letting us know. I can't imagine anything more shocking. I hope that your family and friends will help ease this transition. Just know I'm thinking about you today..
Oh, my goodness! What a terrible time you have had in the last weeks. I just now read of your sad, shocking news. New Realm, please accept my sincerest sympathy in the loss of your husband and know that you are in my prayers. May you have peace....M
What a terrible way to wake up...the shock must seem overwhelming. Remember that we are all here for you and come back to us when you feel ready. Bless you and hug the children for us all....Ann
New Realm: I am so sad and sorry that you had to be informed of your dear one's passing in such a shocking manner. I know it will take you awhile to assimilate the knowledge that he is truly gone so suddenly. I pray that you will be comforted and held in god's arms as you begin y our new life.
New Realm--I am at an utter loss for words. I cannot imagine the shock--I know it will take a while for it all to sink in. I'm so very sorry. Please accept my condolences. I pray peace and comfort for you and yours.