For the first time in Months I actually got to get out and just be me. A dear friend has asked me dozens of time to go out for dinner and it seemed that something would come up with either Dh or my Mom so I kept having to cancel. Well not last night, finally I just said that's it, I am gonna go no matter what. Of course Dh started acting weird first thing in the morning, but by the time I left he was ok. I totally enjoyed just being normal, it's been soooooooo long! Wonderful little Bistro that we could just sit and talk enjoy some great wine and a wonderful dinner. I should do that more often. I hope all of you can take the time to do that for yourself. I forgot what it was like. To bad more of us don't live closer to eachother, we could trade caregiver nights so that more of us could get out once in a while. Rk
I'm glad you were able to get out and be "normal". I know how hard it is to do that. Last month I was able to go out with a friend I hadn't seen in almost 19 years. It was wonderful to talk to another adult :)
Well, just how much fun was that? You described your evening so beautifully, I actually felt like I was there. As you said, we should all do this. Make a date and go. Blessings. I know you had a wonderful time and I'm happy for you.
RK, that's wonderful.. I cannot leave Jim alone as he gets very anxious and sometimes make dangerous mistakes, like vaccuming out the pellet stove while the ash was still HOT! OMG! If I want to escape, I have to be sure he is in a good frame of mind, ready for a nap or have my Mom or daughter here. My Mom is 76, who would have thought she would be helping me care for my 61 yr old husband????? Mom is recoving well from her latest lung infection, and thank God is up and around like much of her old self. She really helps me with 9 yr old Dylan. Poor kid takes the brunt of Papa's anger, but is handling it well, is in therapy and I am looking for a mentor for him at the local Prep school. Luckily my daughter followed in my footsteps and is a Medical Assistant. She works at an adult Day Care for the mentally challenged. She is so compassionate. Her parttime hours and weekends allow her to spend much time with her beloved step-Dad. Thank God for these blessings.
I'm so happy that you were able to get out Rk. We all know how these 'little stresses' just pile up on you amd before you know it, you are so stressed! I sure hope you continue.
Jim's wife - I have the same situation. I can't leave my 65 year old husband alone without someone being here. My mom (77) lives with us and she has been great to watch him when I need to get out. She is healthy and wtill working. My daughter helps out a lot but it can leave my husband very ancious. She has a 3 and 2 year old. Even a little anciousness doesn't keep me from getting some time out. Without it, I would litterly go crazy!
Well as I said, I wish that we could all do it a little more often. Sure re-charged me.
It's sad that my 72 year old Dm has had to help me take care of my 54 year old Dh. I just don't want it to be a burden on her. But she does do well with him so that's a blessing. And I can always take him down to visit his Mom, but here lately with the kitchen remodel and my Dm being sick, life has been crazzzzzzzed! So getting a few short hours away from it all was wonderful. Rk
marygail, I can't stress enough how important it is. I am always telling everyone else, You need to take care of yourself. But couldn't find the time to do it for myself. Honestly those few hours were wonderful. Try and make some time for yourself really soon. I always wonder how everyone gets the time to be off at this class or that dinner date and think wow, if only I could. Well, I can tell you, YOU HAVE TO! And from now on will try very hard to make it happen. Rk