I was in such a good mood today, took dh shopping today, all was well coming home, he didn`t wonder much, I made a nice dinner for valatines day, just before we sit down to eat, he looks at me and says Jennie is my daughter, and i said that`s nice she is my daughter to, reply, no, I am not married, I just sat down and cried then went and ate till i couldn`t eat anymore, is anyone else turning to food as a comfort, since we moved back to Mi. from Az. i get angry or hurt and turn to food, have gained 40 lbs, trying to lose it but so hard.
marygail I think many of us use food or drink as solace. It's the easiest thing to do. Then we gain weight and have something else to be unhappy about.
Gosh--thought I was the only one that ate myself into oblivion. In the last year I've gained about 30 lbs. Like the rest of you--I have to do something about this.
I'm sorry about your Valentine's dinner. It had to have hurt really bad. Can't imagine how badly it hurt. XO
marygail...I think I have told this story before but I am bad about repeating. Not long ago I was upset and DH knew it. He said to me, my children love you. I said they should , I'm their mother. You are their mother? with a puzzled look on his face. Yes, I'm their mother. He asked, am I their father? Later he ask me if I could get pregnant. OOPs not going there.
Happy Birthday. I got the biggest kick out of your post about your husband asking you if you could get pregnant. That gave me quite the Valentine chuckle. I started cycling 60 miles a week in November but unfortunately I haven't slowed down the eating. Jenny Craig here I come!
Yep, count me in the gained-too-much club. Gotta lose some before I have to put on lighter weight clothes! or I'll have to buy a new wardrobe... on the other hand, that might not be a bad idea... but I know it's hard on my knees to be overweight.
We seem to have a different problem. Since we moved to the retirement home and get the main meal provided, my wife has gained at least 25 pounds. That means none of her clothes fit her. I have been going through her stuff and picking slacks and skirts with elastic bands, but most of those are now getting stretched out too much. I tried to find some clothes at Reny's, but couldn't find anything I liked, even if I could figure out her size now. I may have to try Walmart's next. :-(
Glad to hear I am not the only one struggling with weight. I am up all day and have alot of broken sleep during the night so all I want to do is eat. I havent really put on but about 5 lbs lately but I needed to take about 15 lbs before I gainned the extra 5. I do not need to put on any more. I can' t get this off.
hey my wife told me one night in bed that I would have to leave as her husband would be home shortly,I told her he would have to sleep on the cold side as I had just got the sheets warm where I was at,she then told me he was a very good marksman,now we've been married for 20 years an I know her "normal" button is broke so I just let it slide,thats the only way to keep your sanity,its hard but ya gotta understand the way they think.......or don't think
My Dh has always done that , kidding around, Like, you are reall cute, but my wife such and such, or whatever. I always laughed at it, or just rolled my eyes, because it does get old. the most important thing, and this is way easier said than done, is let it roll off your back. The only time i get upset is when he yells at me, which fortunately is not too often. Actually, he's been on Resveratrol, and suddenly got exceedingly cranky, yelling at me several times. I took him off temporarily, and will start him again tomorrow. if, however it happens again, I will just tell the doctors at the trial that we can't participate, not if it changes his personality. Things are tough enough without his being unpleasant too. As for weight...... Oh my. He has lost 30 lbs in the past year, but that weight has not been lost, It sneaks across the bed in the middle of the night, and gets into me, probably thru my mouth, which is usually open. (haha_) You know, food is not a great way to drown your sorrows, but it could be worse. and a little wine to wash it down is not so bad either. Let's not be too hard on ourselves.
Marsh, Measure your wife around the bust, waist and hips. You can go on Land's End or Eddie Bauer website and order her some clothes with elastic waist. Most are washable and easy care. Mary Gail, We all get frustrated or mad or hurt and overeat or drink, or watch too much TV. Otherwise, we might run away
Yes, and Blair has some nice things for my generation (70). Their chute pantssuits are very nice. I have 3 of them. They are lightweight, don't wrinkle and look nice.
I have the same problem with the weight shifting. We need to discover how that happens.I probably should give up the vino then it may not be a problem, but!!!!
My DH of 50 yrs or so asked me if I would marry him and I said 'yes.' He got so excited planning the wedding and then said, 'won't the kids be surprised to learn that they are not illigitimate?' Sometimes it just boggles the mind, doesn't pay to take it personally. I knew the man I married was not really saying such things. It's like being upset with the rain. And, yes, weight gain was there, too.
Log me in as someone who has added weight. I lost 100 pounds on South Beach. It took two years starting right after his accident and event. That was about the time things got weird around here. I couldn't lose the rest of the weight. I started trying to work normal eating (intuitive eating, non-diet) and that worked well enough for a while that I managed to maintain the loss.
Then things got really weird. I gained back 50 of the pounds I lost. So at this point I need to lose another 100 or so.
In the last few weeks I've been trying normal eating again, and for some reason this time it is working. My husband is in a long plateau. Things are not good, obviously, but they also are not as bad as most stage 6 dementia patients get. And I'm taking a long look at how I use food.
I'm an emotional eater. And on rare occasions a mini-binger. I've never done a full scale binge. Just close enough that I've got a hint about how much worse it could be. I think that my trying to deal with my weight even now is part of my decision that I'm going to survive this. I need to find other ways to comfort myself.
Since my startling shock that "we were out of money & had to sell the house" I have gone from a size 6/8 to a 12! And I had been a 6/8 for a LONG time. Most of the things in my closet, I can't wear, but there's always hope. Actually, I think I was too thin as a 6 and would be happy about an 8/10 now. But yes, I guess I ate myself through the past one year + and when you're depressed, you don't much feel like exercising, even though that is best to counter depression. I think my body went into shock & changed my metabolism.
thank you all for your comments glad to hear i`m not the only eater and Kitty I know what is is to have no money, husband is leaving me with nothing, he quit a perfictly good job to work in his parents gift shop and gave up all our retirment, haven`t been the same with him since he did that ten years ago, o and his parents went bankrupt so here i am with nothing and having to stay at home with him, i have never worked outside the home, just did day care in our home for ten years, all we live on is social security and a few dollars from the sale of our home, had to get out of debt with that money.sooooo here i am