My husband has been calling me as I have told you.....now he is calling me from a hospital bed at the nursing home where he is. Seems he's had a fall and broken something and has been there for allmost a week. I can't get much information from him. Now, when I call the office there, I'm told that his sister doesn't want me to have any information regarding his well-being or health. I can't get him to remember to tell the administration differently. What can I do? I'm far away and can't visit.....I can't take care of him here.....that doesn't mean I'm not interested in his wellfare and comfort. The only reason I can talk to him once in a while is that he leff his hospital bed number on my phone a few days ago (caller ID is a great thing). Otherwise, I'd be none the wiser. Ideas?
As his wife, you have legal precedence over his sister, at least here in Canada. I say that from being on both sides of the fence, both as a wife and a sister who tried to get information on my brother's condition when he was hospitalized. You could speak to the supervisor of the nursing home, or go as high up as you need to go. You may have to mention the operative word, "lawyer" to them to get their attention. If you can't go to see your husband, could you enlist a family member or representative to do so? I'm concerned that if you don't, it may be construed as a lack of interest on your part, which could work against you legally. I believe that you mentioned that you were being treated for depression. Could you ask you doctor to help you with medication, or a change of medication, to meet this challenge? It seems to me that you will let his family win this battle if you don't pull up your sox. The fact that your husband is phoning you shows his need for you - don't let him down.
Ask your attorney what your rights are, Stuntgirl. The divorce suit may have affected those. But perhaps your attorney might be willing to have a friendly little chat with your husband's attorney, who might then be willing to have a friendly little chat with the NH.