My husband hates when I talk on the phone, the whole time he is giving me the evil eye. It has come to the point, where I e-mail my friend & brother. I have no clue why this bothers him, unless he is jealous of my time away from him. Have others experienced this?
Oh, yes, I'm sure he is jealous and also he doesn't know what the other person is saying and believes it is about him. He can talk on the phone for hours and, in fact, does just that but it doesn't get through that I leave him to chat as much as he wants.
When I am talking on the phone and I am answering the person I am talking to or just talking, my husband talks along with me as if I am talking or asking him a question. He can clearly see that I am on the phone, but he talks to me at the same time. as he is the person on the phone it is the weirdest thing to see. My daughter visited and when she seen him do this she thought it was very odd......why is he talking back to you like that when you aren't talking to him
My DH does basically the same thing only he gets mad! Even when I am talking to my children or his children!!! I believe he is jealous. Also, if someone calls at 11 AM he says it is "too early" etc. I sometimes take the phone to another room or outside.
Man oh Man, this is a sore subject in my house! ha. EVERY single phone call gets interrupted and the called always says they hear DH in the background chiming in..awww. i think he wants to be included so i give him the phone and let him listen or say what he wants for a bit. it seems to relieve his stress to get a call too? i have to close myself in a closet sometimes just to be able to hear! and hes outside the door and never shuts up, just chattering away incessantly..its never ending and even late stage 6ish, hes still doing it much to my dismay. everyone who calls know they have to say a few words now or else..HA! i just had a friend call me from overseas ihadnt talked to in ages, and same thing. i could hardly hear her...i have no clue how to avoid this as i have given him numerous 'cell ' phones with play callers and he does talk to them all day. its a very strange phenomenon for sure --i think alot of us have this problem..Divvi
When I do go to another room to talk...he hides around the corner to listen. A few days ago when his son called, my daughter was here and tried to distract him and tell him it was OK for me to talk to son...it did not settle him down, if anything it made him more upset. He was the one that gave me the phone and told me to finish a conversation that he had started!!!!
I had the same problem until I hit the speaker button and turned the volume up loud, once he heard who was on the phone he did not want them to interrupt his TV program and he waves at me to turn off the speaker. I did this for 2 weeks every call that came in. Now he no longer notices.
My DH does the same thing...listens in and often chimes in a comment as if I were talking to him. However, I often wear a headset to talk so I think it's more understandable that he doesn't see a phone up to my ear some of the time.
My DH dislikes the phone--everything about it from the ringing to the fact that it's taking my attention away from him. Emailing has become a good substitute--I sit in the room with him with the TV on, typing away on my laptop. Once in a while he asks what I'm doing, I say fooling around, and he's satisfied. This change came on very early in the disease process--do you all think it has anything to do with the fact that you can't see the other person? Even if it is someone he likes on the phone, it doesn't seem to make much difference. Yet in person, he'll engage with almost anybody.
Well, I have a bluetooth earpiece for my cell phone and talk to my children on it when I'm driving home from work and I keep it in my ear until my daughter gets home from work so that I can do light housework while I'm talking to her. My daughter likes to talk to me as she's driving home from work (she leaves work about 45 minutes after I get home from work). Well, my husband will hear my end of the conversation, and give me odd looks and doesn't understand that I'm talking to her, even when I tell him so!
When we talk to the other children who live out of state on the land line, I always pass the phone to him and they know to ask questions that are to be answered yes or no....and they also know not to pay any attention to the answer, because he gets it wrong more often than not! <grin> They can ask him if he is on a space ship and he'll say yes; or if he is watching a certain movie (which he is) and he'll say no. But he feels better having heard their voices. When he gets tired of listening, he'll just hand the phone back to me.`
DH for many years would get just nasty angry. I have sisters who love to talk when we call each other. But its not that often either. Since he has gone into stage 6 he doesn't get uptight ALL the time, but when he does its alot of muttering under his breath. One of his brothers widows called for Christmas and he got all mad. Said he thought it was "One of your boyfriends." I told the SIL what he said. She is 82. She is so fun to talk to that when she asked if she should hang up so as not to upset DH I said "No! I deserve to have conversations with the outside world." Oh how I hope and pray I can be like her when I'm older. She takes long walks/hikes all the time, lots of gardening, has so many interests........... Gosh! I gotta call her today.
Lynn doesn't get mad I am on the phone, he just gets more needy. I liken it to how when the kids were little they could be playing and wanted nothing to do with me.. but as soon as I got on the phone they were all over me. He acts just like that. He sleeps most of the day now, but if he knows I am on the phone he hangs around asking me 20 questions until I get frustrated and hang up. Divvi I had to laugh as I have locked myself in another room when I need to take an important phone call. He still knocks and mutters, but I am far enough away from the door that I can still hear the caller.
Just like the kids did. They want all the attention on THEM! I can't talk lengthily on the phone or have someone over unexpectedly without him griping about it either during or after.
My husband went through a phase where every time I was on the phone, he would come into the room and sit and listen. I finally asked him why he did that, because he never wanted to talk to the person I was on the phone with. He told me that the sound of my voice was soothing, and he liked to hear it.
Now we’re in the phase that any noise is aggravating. I watch the tv sometimes with the captions on and the sound muted, so the noise won’t bother him. I only listen to music when he is asleep, because the noise bothers him. And sometimes I have to turn the phones off, because it bothers him to hear the phone ring. He certainly doesn’t want to hear my side of the conversation any more. Who knew I would miss having him sit with me while I talked on the phone?