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    • CommentAuthorLullie
    • CommentTimeJan 11th 2009
     
    My husband is in the early stage, but I believe he's had the disease for longer as the changes have been apparent. He's so mean and to me (not others) that I wouldn't want to have sex with him! Today he told me I just keep getting "wider and wider"--he yells at me continually and ignores me. So why would I want sex with him?
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      CommentAuthorStarling*
    • CommentTimeJan 11th 2009
     
    Lullie, you wouldn't want to have sex with him.

    There is another active thread on this subject available. You might want to look at it. And we have talked about this before. You are not alone.
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      CommentAuthorNew Realm*
    • CommentTimeJan 11th 2009
     
    Hi Lullie,

    Tell us more about you and your spouse. Ages, how you found out he had AD, etc.
    • CommentAuthorRk
    • CommentTimeJan 11th 2009
     
    Lullie, To answer your question, If I were you I wouldn't want sex from him either. Many times when I am asked about Dh's diagnosis, I say he was diagnosed in Jan O8 at the age of 53 but the diagnosis didn't start the AD. Obviously there were issues long before the diagnosis. My Dh is in what I would say is stage 5 and thankfully is kind and pretty easy to deal with. No anger! Yes there are times he says things that aren't appropriate but I know he has no idea what he just said. Unfortunately this disease will be a journey of just learning to deal with it one day at a time. If you can't, I completely understand. It's not fun, it's frustrating, it's horrible, but most of all it's tragic. Hang in there. Get yourself in a support group to help you. Cause honestly at this point that all you can do, ( Is take care of yourself). The rest is out of your control. You will find that everyone here understands, we are all just hanging on to each other for support. I wish you the best. Rk
    • CommentAuthorSunshyne
    • CommentTimeJan 11th 2009
     
    Lullie, hi, and welcome to Spouse.

    We've talked about sexual relations quite a few times. One thing is certain: dementia does NOT improve them!

    If you click on "Search" in the box above these threads, enter "sex" and "topics" and then click on "search", you'll find several threads on the topic. If you do the same thing but click on "comments" rather than "topics" you'll get dozens of hits...
    • CommentAuthorLullie
    • CommentTimeJan 11th 2009
     
    Rk,
    Thanks for the words of encouragement. I have asked alot of questions from everyone and received good answers. We are all at different stages and ages, but we all a this coping issue in common. I am grateful so this site and each one of you. God Bless, Lullie