So we need to stop for gas after the parade of lights and DH has such a hard time with the machines, I talked him into staying in the car while I pump the gas. So that all goes well and I go in the convenience store to get some milk and when I try to get in the truck, it's locked! I had left the keys in with DH sitting in the truck, so you would think that would be okay, right? He can't unlock the car! He can't open the door or the windows. He hits every button on the door but each time he hits the lock button it is to lock it. I have visions of having to call the police to get into a vehicle with a grown man sitting in the front seat unable to get out or unlock the door. Finally I go around to his side and motion him to push the lock manually and he gets the job done. I open his door, unlock the doors and go get in. Lesson learned: Take the keys next time.
jules, every time my husband decides he wants to wait in the car for me, I get nervous that something similar might happen. He usually wants me to leave the car running, so he can have air conditioning or heat. Need to plan to take an extra key along when we go anywhere, I guess, just in case!
Jules, I was always afraid my husband would lock me out or leave the car to follow me inside and leave the keys in the car when he did! I have always taken the keys with me when he stays in the car for that gallon of milk I need just because of my worry!
Sunshyne, I would be afraid that my husband would forget that he couldn't drive, slide over into the driver's seat and take off (even if I was still pumping gas!!!). Can't you just picture that horrendous scene?? I can, and it's on my nightmare list....maybe I'll come up with the full list for everyone soon! <grin>
I have had this same scenario -DH puches the door locks all the time. luckily i had a keyed entry on my car but i never leave keys anymore. now the other thing he has done lately is when i go out the front door to water plants he locks me out-about 4times now. he seems to enjoy thinking hes lockin gme out i know i say he doesnt know what hes doing but i differ on occasions:) i learned my lesson the first time i had to BEG him to 'unlock' the door thru the window while he stood there smiling. he unlocked it on cue. i never wanted to be in that situation again so i have extra keys now with me EVEN i i go for the mail for 30sec..belielve me once you are in a 'lock down' situation you panic and make sure you have recouse for any other incidences! divvi
The building where my company was located had bathrooms in the shared area outside my company's facility. I had to let staff in many a time when they forgot to take their keys along, and of course, was worried sick that I might accidentally end up locked out in the evening or on a weekend ... no one there to let me in, purse and car keys and house keys locked in the office. So I had several keys made, and kept one safety-pinned in a pocket of every pair of pants I was likely to wear.
Now that I worry about my husband possibly locking me out of the house, I've done the same thing with house keys.
Well, so far, this has not happened, However, I can see where it could happen. I have an extra key to the house 'buried' in case I ever need it. I'm so glad all worked out well. Seems like it's always something, doesn't it?
My Dh has been having alot of key issues lately. I went to the locksmith and he sold me two large magnetic key holders. I put the truck key in it and put it up under the truck where I can find it. Also I took some fishing line and tied the house key deep into a large shrub far way from the door. No one will be looking there But I know that it is there and feel better.
Want to hear a nightmare, folks? DH and I went to the grocery store for a few short minutes. DH got a bug up his butt and just had to go back to the car to check on our Boxer, Gabriel, and wanted the keys to get in. Against, better judgement, I gave them to him. But, I thought, it will only be a few minutes and I did tell him "do not move the car". Not moments later as I came out of the store, there he was, driving in the parking lot! He saw me, and went to drive to pick me up and almost hit another car. It was hard not to go crazy.
These driving situations usually only need to occur once for us to be very much more aware and careful ..... MMarshall, I had a very similar situation occur only, in my case, it was with our 35' motor home - our Son was with us and doing all of the driving .... in 2004 we were on the East Coast of Canada taking our once in a lifetime trip to see the Autumn colours - Son had gone to make a phone call and I had got out to register us at the camping park office. I was just walking back to the motor home when I noticed it moving backwards. I ran towards the unit trying to grab the door and was almost run over by the dual wheels as I slipped and fell.
Of course I never thought my husband would be behind the wheel because the driving issue had been dealt with when the Neurologist stated he felt my husband should no longer be driving and that I should do all the driving from then on ..... or so I thought it had as I was now doing all the driving ....... but, oh yes, he had got up and behind the wheel and apparently when he started the motor home and put it in reverse, for whatever reason, it started to move, scared him and he just got up out of the driver's seat and walked towards the back of the motor home - totally oblivious that the motor home was still moving. It finally stopped because it hit a power pole, crushed the 3 bikes which were on the bike rack on the rear and husband was thrown about, suffered cuts and bruises by no serious injury ...... THANK GOD!
Right there and then, once I got into the unit and was picking him up off the floor, and stuffing my heart back down my throat, I said (well, in all honesty, it was more like yelling :) to him "that's it ! ...... you will NEVER drive again" and he hasn't.
In the beginning the 'him not driving' issue came up from time to time, because we lived out in the country and he thought it would be okay for him to just drive a little way down the country road to the garbage dumpster .... I said a definite *NO*, stopped whatever I was doing and drove him over to the dumpster ..... I figured the only way I was ever going to keep the upperhand on this issue was always being willing to stop what I was doing to drive him wherever he wanted to go ..... and it worked.
Now, instead of a Driver's License he has what is called here 'picture ID' and it is issued by the driver's license department - it looks similar to a driver's license.
On the issue of leaving him in the Van while I run in to do a quick errand, I am very nervous that he may get out to try to find me or, alternatively, decide our little dog needs out, open the door and let her out into the parking lot .... he would never be able to chase her and catch her and most of the time he can't remember her name and just keeps referring to her as *that little dog we bought* so now I take the keys with me and lock him in the Van. He's not able to figure out how to unlock the doors, as you have to push a button down to get them to unlock, so this is pretty safe ..... for now .......
Oh my Gosh!!!! The things you learn on this board! I will, from now on, take my keys with me when I leave him in the car. I already have a house key outside. Thank you so much, jules and everyone for sharing/warning us about these things.
WOW! DH got my car keys the other day (it still hasn't been sold). The car was in the driveway and he was going to put it in the garage. I was outside and when he got in and turned on the key, I could see him thinking of taking off. I was really scared. There was some stuff on the side of the garage and I asked him if he needed me to move it. He looked kind of sad and smiled and said he could do it. After he parked it, I asked for the key. He said "I think I would have gotten into trouble if I drove off, wouldn't I?" I reminded him he didn't have a license to drive and 'yes' if he'd been stopped, he would have gotten a massive fine.
All ended well. But it was scarey for a couple of minutes. Can't imagine him starting up a motor home and....
Good idea briegull, my hubby still drives, I am not sure he should but until the Doctor pulls it or Penn Dot he is not going to stop. No one will ride with him but me...and that is not often. We put a garmin in as he was getting lost. I know the day is coming and appreciate all the tips. I also have a key outside as Tom has locked me out a couple times and then told me he did not know I was out there.
For me, it was in the middle of no-where at midnight and Dh decided to follow me into the mini-mart and lock the truck but oop's he forgot the key's! It was winter oh I am gonna say 15 degree's windy blowing snow..........etc Oh and yeah other problem................ Our poor fur babies where locked in the truck with no heat. They had their blanky's but they were panic'ed so I had to wait outside with them so they would stay reasonably calm till the locksmith could get out to the boonies to open the darn door. All this was before Dh was diagnosed. I learned my lesson early on. But am always aware that even I can lock myself out. LOL............
Years ago my big Rhodesian Ridgeback got locked in the house and I was locked in the yard. Door was glass, but he could not--would not--open it. He looked at me as if I'd done something foolish (how did he know). Left DH once in the car while I was inside a store & could see him. I always took the keys the door was locked, but he walked away and I had no idea where he'd gone, we were on a busy street. I was on the cell phone calling the police as I drove around looking for him and finally saw him blocks away wandering in a different area from where we live. It was just chance I dove in the right direction, couldn't believe how far he'd gone in such a short time.
Gerry, I live in PA too. I called the doctor's office and told them what I needed from them. I also wrote a letter (very short) to the doctor asking him to pull the license and handed it along with the drug list and told the receptionist that the doctor needed to read it BEFORE the appointment.
They did a mini-mental on my husband and then told him he needed to stop driving. THEY then contacted Penn DOT and pulled his license. What I got from Penn DOT was a letter saying he had to come in for a test, but basically the doctor had already decided that testing him at the local rehab hospital wasn't worth time or effort, so certainly taking him for a test at the license bureau was worthless as well. I called Penn DOT (they provided a phone number for that division) and asked what to do now. I was told to take the license in to a tag company (I chose AAA since we are members) and turn it in there. They use the turn in paperwork to order a free ID card.
There was no charge at AAA to do this and in this case they didn't even ask for a AAA membership card. And it was all done and all official. Penn DOT had a diagnosis as well. Once the card was turned in I got him off the insurance as well.