I am sending you as many postive hugs as you can handle Darlene, I know tomorrow is going to be hard day for you and your family. Just remember the sun will set again and he is in a safe place and will be well cared for. Kathy
Yes Darlene , Same here, Sorry to know that the AD is to this point but you know your decision was well thought out and therefore it is time and will be the best for you and your LO. Glad to know your daughter will be with you on this difficult task. Sounds like you found a very nice place for him. Know that we will be with you in our thoughts and prayers. Thanks for sharing PAT
Thank you Kathy and Pat. Your good thoughts are coming through. I know he will be safe and well taken care of now. Today is the day. It has been six long years since we started this journey. I just look at him and think he will not be here tonight after 31 years of marriage. My daughter and a good friend went yesterday and got his room ready. So much support for us and it does help. I am trying to keep it together and thinking positive thoughts. But it is hard. Darlene
warm hugs to you and your family Darlene, I know today was very hard for you, know that you did the right thing and that he is safe and well cared for. Love and hugs kathy
Thank you for all your prayers and good thoughts. Yesterday went much better that I thought it would. We took Ralph yesterday morning to the care home. When we showed him his room, the first thing he saw was his Professional Engineer certificate I had hung on the wall. He said he would always be a Professional Engineer. When we got ready to leave, I told him I could no longer take care of him and they would take good care of him. It was like a part of him came back and he told me he knew that. He had told me this is what he wanted, back when he could reason about these things. When I called last night, the caregiver told me he had done fine and given her no trouble and was socializing some. I will call this morning and see how the night went. It was very hard to leave him. Thank God my daughter was with me. I don't think I could come home to an empty house. My family will be here until the first of the year and then I will have to face being alone Tears are close to the surface, but under the circumstanses, I am doing pretty good. I know he is safe and will be well taken care of now. God bless all of you for your support and your battles with this disease. Darlene
Darlene, I wish there was something wonderful and supportive to say. My thoughts, like everyone else's are with you. I guess many of us will face that day too.
My daughter and I went to see Ralph yesterday. He has settled in to the home quite well. It is like he now feels at home. I am suprise he has adjusted so quickly, but it has made it easier for me. He wanted to call me yesterday and I did talk to him on the phone for a short time. They are so good to him and let him help, which he likes. I know I have made the right decision for him and thank God he is doing so well. I have had three nights of undisturbed sleep, which has not happened for a long time. Thank you all for your good thoughts and prayers. Darlene
Darlene, I am so happy to hear things are going well for Ralph, this makes it so much easier for you to carry on with your day knowing he is safe, and happy. Take Care and enjoy the special things in your life. Kathy