FayeBay It really does take some detective work. I didn't figure my DH hallucinations or unrelenting worries and it was truly by accident but my DH was getting up in the middle of the night (unbeknownst to me) and showing his gun to supposed robbers through the glass in the front door. He said "I showed them that they can't break in here". I gave the gun to my SIL and that stopped the worry of people trying to break in. Slip in here when you can but we all know that this is a 24/7 and that is not always possible.